So me and my wife were at the gym the other night. Now she has Been working out for a couple of months now and she does hard core workout. She does yoga, lifts weights , runs and she played basketball in college. She is about 6-0 165 pounds and I'm about 5-8 and 155 pounds. So ya I'm a little guy compared to her. The other night she challenged me to a Bench press competion. I know my wife is very strong but I didn't think she was that strong and thought I could easily win. But I was wrong. I went first and maxed out at 175. She started with 160 and worker her way up. She got to 175 and told me to keep the weights coming so I did. She got up to 220 and beat me. I was embarrassed and on the way home she was teasing me and said I should have seen the look on my face. I was mad so I challenged her to a wrestling match at our house when we got back. I new I could win that because men are obviously more physical and I knew I could beat her. We have a room that we moved the furniture and it is big enough to wrestle in. But I was wrong again. She pinned me and then put me in this scissor move where she put my head in between her very strong thighs. It really hurt because her legs are like tree trunks there so muscular. She said I wear the panties in the relationship. What should I do?
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I would definitely open up to your wife about that. My fiance and I tease each other all the time about nonsense, but recently he told me that sometimes I hurt him and embarrass him when I tease him about certain things. I didn't realize I had hurt him until he said something. He then began to tell him that he had started to resent me because he felt like I thought he was stupid and inferior to me. None of that is true of course, but when I realized just how crappy I had made him feel, I immediately apologized and stopped teasing him about the topics that bothered him and loosened up on some of the other things I teased him about. We still tease each other, we are just nicer about it.
From what it sounds like, your wife basically made you feel emasculated and definitely crushed your ego. Be honest with her about it and be patient too. Change doesn't happen overnight, so if she does tease you often it might take time for the teasing to ultimately stop. Also, try to work out with her and not make it into a competition. That might help. She sounds competitive so that may be a challenge, but again, honest communication is probably your best bet.
TLDR: Be honest and tell her she embarrassed you, ask her not to tease you about things because you love her and don't want to resent her, instead of competing with her just have fun with her and build each other up.