I was raped at 16, (last year). I am now 17 (almost 18), and I have started smoking (normal tobacco). I find that it helps with stress when I think about things that get me down and feel helpless. I have noticed a change in my mood for the better and realise that my mum and I have been getting on A LOT better than usual. My dad has always been very anti-drugs, which is totally understandable. And I know that he loves me very much and would do anything to make me 100% happy with myself again. But I just don't know how to help him accept it and help him understand that I am only doing it because it makes me feel less stressed and depressed. Any suggestions?
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If your Dad can't accept your coping method, he needs to understand everyone has their own methods of stress relief. I am sorry you were raped, that is very unfortunate. On the other hand, this is a past event. It wasn't your fault. You have many things to look forward to in your future and you should always wake up and start your day thinking positive! The main way I relieve stress is by working out! I go every single day and I'm in the best shape of my life :) plus I'm stronger!
Just think about it. What you went through was painful...but you survived. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, remember that! I hope your Dad can understand.
I started smoking when I was 16 and I love it but it was a battle with my mum because she said it was bad for my health but when she said that I became so when I was 18 (still smoking ) I had started to drink alcohol which my mum found it fine but then my mum was still telling me to stop smoking so I said mum I really like smoking and it is a part of my daily life so please let me keep smoking I would be in worse condition not smoking then I got married this year a year later so I was 19 and my husband smokes but the answer to that question was ok you can smoke