So one of my friends invited me to her party and I didn't want to be mean and not come so I went. When I came it was quiet in the begininng but as soon as others started arriving it became louder. Then out of nowhere a guy came sitting on the couch next to me and ask for me to show him I dance. I basically froze up because i'm really shy around new people and I was too scared to dance because I don't know if he would've liked my dancing. He sat there for a little bit with me on the couch quiet but then he kept asking me like he was begging me but after awhile he just got up and left I felt relief once he left. He was scaring me with the begging, but after I came home from the party that day I felt really bad because he was really handsome and seemed like a nice guy but I was letting my shyness & insecurities get to me. So my question to you guys is why did he want me to dance with him so badly I mean there were plenty of others girls there and what are some tips you have to prepare me for next time this happens to me. Please take this question seriously and thank you everybody :).
Preparing For Next Time?
- Posted:
- 3+ months ago by magicalwi...
- Topics:
- party, quiet, preparing
Responses (1)
Ahh, you're more than welcome. I'm glad it made you feel better. There is always more than one way of looking at a situation but, if you have insecurities, it's common to focus on the one which makes you feel most insecure. I used to do it too. It passes. :)
I'm defintely going to take your advice for the future hopefully i'll get over being shy & insecure soon. I just think maybe if he would've just started up a conversation in the begininng instead of just jumping right into it then I would've felt more comfortable dancing with him. It also feels great to know that i'm not the only one who goes through shyness and stuff like that :).
Oh, definitely. I always think that too. If you just have a chat with someone and get to know them a bit, you start feeling comfortable around each other. Problem is, women want confident men and a lot of men confuse confidence with pushiness or arrogance. After a few times having a chat with a girl and some neanderthal pushes in, you wonder whether why nice guys finish last sometimes. :/
Thank you so much for your answer kangaroo because I was really starting to feel bad about the whole situation I didn't think of it like that so thank you again :).