I'm not with the guy and he is desperate for me to have an abortion as he thinks having a baby will ruin his life. I want to carry on with my education but I'm not sure I believe in abortion. Help?!
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The only important question here is: Do you think you are ready to raise a child? If you can take off a year from university and arrange someone to take care of your child afterwards, then its most likely to succeed.. you do however need a family which supports you in it.
You'll have plenty of opportunities to have a child later in life when both you and your partner are ready. Raising a child is a massive responsibility that doesn't stop for 18 years... only do it if you're sure 100% that is what you want.
Miscarriages occur in 25% of pregnancies, abortion is no different than a miscarriage except it's by choice.
You are talking about a baby in your belly. Life occurs at inception. This is a person, not a choice.
Okay, all that aside. Have you spoken with anyone above the age of 30 who has had an abortion? Almost everyone in this category will tell you of the regret that they have for making that decision. It is deeply hardwired in a woman to have a baby and nurture it. Yes, I know that the circumstances are not ideal. Yes, finishing college with a baby would be more difficult. However, you made the choice to sleep with that guy. I am sorry...that is hard, but that is the reality. My sister-in-law was pregnant before marriage and without ideal circumstances, but she made it work. That little guy is now 3 years old. He is precious...a real joy in her life. Just think if she had decided to have him aborted. He would not be here today. I know...you are thinking...that is really basic...but yes that is what you should think of.
There are other options. There are thousands of couples with good circumstances that cannot have a child by natural means. You could provide your baby with a great home. You would be essentially giving your baby over to another couple. Your baby would become their baby, but at least your little precious baby would be living and there would be the opportunity to reunite years down the line.
Yes, having the child and caring for it would be a ton of work. I know. I have four children. However, they are almost the greatest joy in my life. My relationship with God is the greatest joy. I have great memories of my children at 2 or 3 years of age running up to me after a long day of work and saying "daddy...daddy." That is something that melts your heart. Teaching them, watching them grow and learn is an every day joy. Yes, they cost a lot. Yes, they take a lot of time, but anything worth pursuing does the same.
The decision that you make here is huge, especially for the little one in your womb. Will you choose life for him or her, or will you choose death?
Don't commit murder!! If you do not want the child please give it up for adoption.Buckner International is a very good place to care and adopt out a child. their HQ is in Dallas but I think they will send someone to you. they are perhaps the best place in the USA to send a child to. they are on the web.that baby is a real person who does not deserve to be murdered.It may even grow up as a good politician a pastor,or just plain a great loveable person who deserves to live every much as yourself.
Contact them anyhow as they are inter national & probably have or can get connections for you.If can not get contact information,contact me as we are both in Dallas Tx.Try Buckner International in Dallas tx or even Buckner homes for Children,in Dallas,tx.if not be glad to get it for you, you can get me by private message e-mail by Question.com by clicking on my user name.
To continue or end the pregnancy, it is the decision of the female. Sometime due to various reasons, women won’t be able to continue the pregnancy. MTP kit is a first choice of plethora of women to avoid unwanted pregnancy at home safely without any major undesired effects. It consists of 5 tablets, one tablet of Mifepristone (200mg) and 4 tablets of Misoprostol (200mcg).
Problem being that I'm British!