ok so im getting married, my dad left when i was 18 to go to another state for 6months to help an uncle with his bussiness, he was still with my mum, i had some troubles and went to stay with him, he was callin my mum all the time and sayin he comin home for xmas, xmas come and he told me he had a girlfriend, mum didnt know so i had to tell her he wasnt coming home broke her heart and mine, anywho dad n i have not go along very well with punch ons and lots of fights i dont see my dad and only hear from him 2 times a year if im lucky, i do love my dad btw but i also hate him, he has a new wife, my mum has a partner which i really like and get along with very well and have since before they hooked up, he has been there for me for anything and everything, i love him like a dad, brother uncle, basically im struggling with if i should have who to walk me down the isle. i dont want to offend my dad by having my step dad do it but really want him to, but my dad has said and done things that bad that to be honest if i put my step dad and dad next to each other would be a disaster! and i know they couldnt put it aside as my dads a bit of a smart arse and my step dad dont take no crap. what the hell am i supposed to do, my bro n i dont take cos of a girlfriend he has who has lied and caused trouble. do i have my dad walk me down and have my step dad as a groomsmen??? someone please help im torn!!!
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*** Based on what I’m reading it sound like you already made your mind up, you might be looking for reassurance of your decision. First of all have you discussed it with your mom? You might want to talk it over with him also, if you decide to go that route. You mention your step dad is like a real dad to you. Just remember any one can be a father but it takes a special person to be a Dad. . Make sure this is what your Step Dad is willing to do. Once you come up with your true decision make it known to the other two parties, such as your Father and your Step Dad. Remember this is going to be your special day, do not let anyone ruling it for you and whatever decision you come up with.