My family disowned my brother because he is gay. My parents don't treat us like children but call us investments. They say if I disobey them too I will be cut off from them as well. We are well-off and I'm bound to finish college soon. They want me to stay and run the family business but I plan to start one of my own. I don't know how to tell them and it's making me really depressed. My parents are also opposing me to date anyone out of the Chinese race, so they don't know I have a boyfriend that's not Chinese. Am I bad person for wanting to start my own life and not live under them after college?
Please help me with what to do?
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- 3+ months ago by anonymous...
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- children, family, treat, gay, brother, parent, investment, parents
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Well, that is the way things are done in China, but in America we do things differently. Every spring thousands of young people hit the road, head for a warm climate, accept rides from strangers, and work odd jobs to support themselves. Maybe they come back and maybe they don't. That is the American Way.
plenty of people deal with racist and homophobic parents it's not fun, there's one thing you need to realise, you are living ''your life''. you can choose to live it or live the life your parents want you to live. but what when your parents are no longer there..? now you regret everything.. you regret not being there for your brother, you'll regret ditching that guy you liked, you'll want the life you never got to live. now you are old though.. You are not bad for wanting to be ''you''. your parents are bad for disowning a son, something they will regret when it's to late. just like you will regret when it's to late. just do you, you're the one who has to live with yourself and the choices you made. so make them for yourself.
Tradition from many religious standpoints, dictates, honor your parents, and for the most part, they do have your best interest in mind.
There are many around the world who have taken the attitude to do your own thing, or if it feels go do it! If it doesn't try it! However has this made them any happier?
A person is not a bad person because of wanting to make their own decisions in life. We live and we learn, sometimes the easy way sometimes the hard way. Your parents had to do the same. However we can observe and learn from another person's achievements, mistakes, and or failures, since you have less history to fall back on.
When you were a child your parents knew everything, then you became a teenager, and you now knew almost everything. Now you are an adult, is it possible you can still learn more, of cause that is why you are still going to school.
The choices are yours, however here is something to ponder as you go.
www.jw.org This site has many answers to many questions like yours.