He is 16 going on 17 and I am 18 going on 19. We are in the same college. I am his first serious relationship. We broke up about 2 month ago after being together for 6 months (we are friends before that, he had a crush on me when we first met) because of some jealousy issue from him and my bad temper. I am the type who will show immediately when I am unhappy while he is the type who will suppress everything. so he exploded that day and decided to break up. He cried and tell me he still loves me but he just cannot continue this anymore. His best friend also told me he was very upset at the start. I was very very hurt at the start and did all the typical thing like crying, not eating and kept telling him to come back for about a week. Then I decided to agree with his break up and go on no contact. However I broke it at several occasions for stupid reasons. I was very disappointed when my friend told me that he told another guy who is interested in me that I am not as good as the guy thinks. He also told a mutual friend of ours that it's better if I am gone forever when he tells him he should give us another chance. He even told me on msn that he supports me to go out with this other guy when I said this guy asked me out for movie. However, he appeared to be a little angry during the conversation. He also always pretend to not see me in school, but sometimes I will get the feeling that he is looking at me. and if our eyes ever met, he will stone for a few sec and turn away. I finally managed to keep no contact up for 18 days and then he talked to me on msn yesterday. He was saying that a annoymous person emailed him to ask him to help to chase me and he asks if I know who he is. I said no and then we started talking for about an hour on msn. We didnt go into anything personal and we both didnt ask each other about our life. We just talk about our mutual friends, sch scandals and he told me about how the girls he found pretty in the school. However he told me later that he doesnt like any of them. I ended the conversation as I have to go.
During the post break up period, we did sms each other for a while, we can talk for one whole day normally and out of a sudden he just doesnt reply anymore.
I know I still miss him a lot and I dun really blame him for anything. He is a great guy, we just lack communication. I dunno if I want him back but he just kept confusing me. I know I might be thinking too much but I just cant help it. It's my first relationship and I didn't really expect the break up. I know if he really cares, he would have smsed me or by all means contacted me but I just kept finding excuses for his actions. Can you help me by telling me what he could possibly be thinking? Is it really so easy to move on for him? Does he still care about me?
Please help me with my ex bf:( Thank you?
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- 3+ months ago by VictoriaLee
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- college, first, after, broke, relationship, month
Responses (1)
He wants to have his cake and eat it too. He's being a jealous jerk. He realizes that he messed up and that he shouldn't have broken it off, but he is too stubborn to go back on it. He is being very selfish. Forget about him and move on because it's not going to get any better. Right now, you are wounded and are wanting to figure things out, but leave him out of the equation. It doesn't matter and he has no right to know what's going on in your life anymore. He gave up that right when he broke up with you. If he is going to talk trash about you, let him. And even though he might have told that guy that you weren't that great of a girl, the guy who asked him probably doesn't trust him anyway knowing that he is the ex-boyfriend. Guys disregard themselves all the time. Date other people and have fun, you are just starting out college and there is no need to be boggled by this. There are so many other guys who know how to treat a girl right