I have panic attacks often, and usually go to my friends for help when this happens. I'm grounded and won't get my phone back for a while, and can't contact and of my said friends. I've asked my parents to have my phone back so I can talk to my friends if I'm having a panic attack,then give it back afterwords. My dad told me no, saying I needed to talk to them instead. They are trying to make me trust them and involve them and talk to them whe I have problems, but they only get worse when I do. They cant really help me, and to be quite Frank, I don't want them to. My problems get worse,my stress and anxiety skyrockets. I don't know what to do... Please help me!
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Ok, let's talk about the panic attacks. Everything else you have mentioned is a topic for another post. (And you probably should take it up with a local minister, rather than asking strangers on the internet to comment.)
The first line of defense against depression and anxiety is B vitamins. Get nutritional yeast powder and/or B-100 pills. Vitamin B2 is a water soluble dye that turns urine bright yellow. When the color fades, it's time for another dose. Read some books about nutrition so you know how to eat right.
I like to just lay flat, take deep breaths and tell myself it'll be okay over and over until it stops. I know how you feel about parents, my mother doesnt believe in mental illness, she thinks im making it up for attention but I put up with it because I love her. Parents don't need to know the truth for you to get the comfort you need out of them. Just go up and hug them, they'll accept it without questioning because parents need hugs too. Some day your parents will be your primary coping mechanism, take it from someone with more psychological trauma than I have memories (I lost my memory due to trauma). It's ok to hate your parents, that's just what dudes do but just know that they're trying their best, they just have no idea what theyre doing because literally no one has any idea what they're doing, just being older doesn't automatically make you a wise mountain sage. Just put up with their mistakes and accept them for who they are like you would any other person
Asking untrained friends to help you with panic attacks is useless. You havent been diagnosed as having a panic disorder in the first place.
You are doing absolutely nothing to solve the problem via therapy and or medication. You are doing nothing to identify the triggers; you are doing nothing to learn how to control your own panic attacks.
Your friends have entirely too much private information about your mental health. You are using "panic attacks" to blackmail your parents into going to see your friends.
Your parents are the ones to arrange and pay for qualified therapy and treatment. Your friends are neither therapy nor treatment.
Go talk to your parents.
I have panic attacks dues to a medication I'm taking for a chronic illness. I'm really just learning what my triggers are. Trying to deal with them right now without taking another medication. If they get worse I may have too.
What really helps me for now is a scripture that I memorize and repeat during those times. It's at Philippians 4:6,7. It says: Do not be anxious over anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication along with thanksgiving let your petitions be made known to God, and the peace of God that excels all thought will guard your heart and your mental powers by means of Christ Jesus. I meditate on this scripture and try to relax, it works for me in most instances.
I do have family and friends that I can call on at times, that's a big help too.
I truly hope you get some help and relief, the attacks are no joke.
My parents have never had the same level of depression and anxiety, whereas the friend I go to has. I was there for him when he needed it most, I kept him from ending it and now he is doing the same for me. Panic attacks, depression, he has gone through it all and is helping me get through it as well. I have tried going to a counselor, but we couldn't afford it, and I am doing everything I can to identify the triggers. All the same, thank you for the advice.