Hi, I am an older lady, past menopause. I don't have any sex drive thanks to the fact that during cancer treatement my ovaries were removed, and I am on antidepressants. Before, I had always been with men and loved it. I had a really hot and heavy sex drive. I am not interested in women sexually and really never have been but always really appreciated female beauty. I love to look at breasts. I also have loved my female friends deeply, much more freely and openly than the men I have been with (with a couple exceptions). When I have lost a female friend to distance or betrayal (long story) I have been devastated, unbelievably traumatized. What are your thoughts?
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Sexuality is fluid. The theory of sexuality has historically been a very divided one with categories that we try to squeeze people in to. The real truth is that our sexuality is influenced by many different factors: genetics and hormone levels influence our sexuality firstly, then our belief systems influence it even more. Speaking from a purely sexual standpoint most people don't fit in one particular category. We may have preferences, but when it comes to gettin off there just aren't a lot of picky people. However, when love and relationships is brought into question you should ask yourself what gender you can see yourself forming a close bond with or marrying and possibly spending the rest of your life with.
I am an elderly man. I was married for many years. My other married male friends talked openly about the fact that their wives had zero interest in sex with them. This was a big topic. Some of their wives had had hysterectomies or other surgeries that affected breasts or the abdomen. We concluded that women simply do no have much of a sex drive and don't want to talk about it; their feelings were kept hidden from their husbands. We felt that the women may have been asexual or latently homosexual.