... I've been friends with this girl for a while now, over a decade. Every now and then I've amused the idea of her being a bit more than a friend; in fact when I was a teenager and first met her I asked her out on the same day (to a rather soul crushing no..). Now I've moved in with her and her boyfriend of almost 2 years, and things started off fantastic! I considered her my best friend, but about 3 weeks ago I've realized that I begun to fall in love with her; and badly. I can't stop thinking about her and sometimes just seeing her breaks my heart. I'm not thinking of making any kind of move on her (although her relationship isn't exactly going well), because honestly I just feel that would be straight up betrayal of her trust. But I genuinely see myself loving this girl for the rest of my life, and I want to know what to do! I love living with her, i definitely don't want to stop but... I can't keep having these feelings for her or else I feel like I might be driven insane or worse; ruin our friendship. So, how do I go about saving my friendship or, god forbid, getting the girl of my dreams?
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Snoitsueq, from experience the best thing you can do is move out on your own. Just be available if she ever needs you. Don't express your romantic feelings unless she makes the first move. If she is interested she will at some time. In the meantime date other people and don't discuss your feelings about the one on your mind with them. If she is still interested she will feel a tinge of Jealousy and approach you. Otherwise you are wasting your time...trust me.
Snoitsueq, from experience the best thing you can do is move out on your own. Just be available if she ever needs you. Don't express your romantic feelings unless she makes the first move. If she is interested she will at some time. In the meantime date other people and don't discuss your feelings about the one on your mind with them. If she is still interested she will feel a tinge of Jealousy and approach you. Otherwise you are wasting your time...trust me.
i agree, he should tell her right away, no time like the present