Ok I met this girl 3 days ago on the phone she told me shes never had a orgasm?

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OK here goes a women i know was raped a long time ago and since then has never had a orgasm shes 28 years old now and has a child and has had lots of sex but it never pleased her she just thought that's the way it was so anyway i gave her oral until she had her first orgasm it was intense for her but i didn't quite just keep licking she try ed to pull away but i keep going trying to make it feel better can that scare her into thanking shes getting raped all over again but this time by me  now all day yesterday she would not answer my calls or text then this morning she text me this

 Sorry not ignoring u my phones messed up and Yes u kindly did creep me out and seriously and honestly need some space and time please thanks. so now im lost please help me i don't want her to leave me i want her to love me someday

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This is going to sound bad but its the only way. I had a gf with that situation once before. It's not easy. You need to tell her she need professional help. A shrink is the only way she will get past it. It could take months. It could take years. She still may never get over it at all. I know other than a death of a child, rape is the worst thing that could happen to a women. Now you know I'm sincere. I'm going to tell you what you need to do now. Leave just that simple. She will never fully love any man. Because of what happened to her. She will break your heart like my past gf that was raped. I know she didn't intensely break my heart. She just couldn't trust anyone anymore. The same as your woman. It's not their fault but you need to think of your happiness to. Trust me man. Leaving and finding someone else is the only way you will be happy. Or you can stay and try to make it work with her and you will end up resenting her for not loving you as much as you love her. Believe me. I've been down both them roads.

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bob 345 nice advice. how the hell you came up with "you shouldn't have forced oral on her" ill never know. he was reaching out for constructive advice because he was already unsure that he was doing the right thing. some of us havn"t been raped nor are we rapist. so may struggle to know exactly how to help out those who have been mentally destroyed. sorry bro but unless your a trained councillor you cant help, all you can do is guide her to the right people who can

Ok I met this girl 3 days ago on the phone she told me shes never had a orgasm?

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