... haven't met each other]. I like them both. The strongest difference I find in my feelings towards them is that, I love one guy with the whole of his family-parents, sibling. But I feel distant from the other guy's family. I don't really know either family. The second guy(b) is, what people may call a "good catch".
I know that he will soon find a very respectable secure job, he never swears, is a wine drinker,...the other guy(a) probably will try his hands at a lot of different jobs, none very prestigious, he blatantly swears, gets drunk...on lager, wine whatever...the other guy is cute, the guy b is more manly, I suppose...There isn't anything to dislike in either. I get along very well with both. Both are kind, sensitive, in most matters hold same values as I do,...n both of them knows me well enough. Should I consider the family factor at all? I guess it is more like, should I go for security, status and long term ok-ness, or....:) funny, i feel so ashamed of asking this questions, now....I'm basically just scared to choose the badass with a badass family..LOL...I will never be rich with him, i will never be high in a society with him, I will never know for sure what tomorrow holds if i am with him....that definitely seems attractive to me now. I feel like I can breath freely and have a good laugh with him and his family while with the other, I will have to take a lesson in manners. He is fun to be around tho....only, I feel like he will leave all the fun factor as he matures or when he is with his parents. the other guy's parents themselves aren't afraid to laugh out loud...Gosh! I am just scared that, if it turned out to be a very long-term relationship, will I regret the choice later....older people, women, seem to value security over happiness...they always seem to...:(....I know that i wouldn't loose either of my friends, whomever i may choose

I would like to hear comments from some older women, if they are around here....but all comments are welcome..