I got engaged in May and just moved into this new gorgeous apartment which belongs to my aunt who lives outside the city. I have a neighbour who lives on the next floor, he is single, same ethnicity, language and he is drop-dead handsome, so much I can't even look at him. He trained as an engineer but is a musician, model. We started talking as friends, take turns cooking and having dinner at each other's apartment because we both live alone. He has male friends who visit but no female friends which is odd considering how handsome he is. I know he isn't gay because of how he looks and plays with me. The problem is that the attraction is unbearable. Some days he can't even. Look at me and me at him, the chemistry is unbearable. We have done nothing but talk and laugh, play attimes, he carries me up and turns me around, we play like little children. He is so funny, but some days I avoid him because its so unbearable. Please how do I avoid this temptation?!
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would you call him shy so to speak you sound like you might be shy to somewhat he might be hiding because of how he feels but you do the same also if your worried about temtation why would that be cause your single and so is he i would say if your friends you have to start some where and they say that a good relationship starts from friends
Liking someone because for his/her physical appearance is "attraction".
We all fall for that catogory in every time. First imagine.. Will you like(i'd better say >love) him even if something happened and his handsome changed? (like an accident or something) if the answer remains as yes... Ok.. You're in love with him and read below further.
As you are already engaged, you should let your second thoughts. According to psycology, if a person likes (a crush ) some one for more than 4months without decreasing his/her love, ..then that person is in love for surely. You should make sure that first. Is it just a crush or are you both in love like romeo julliete? When I read your post , i felt like you two are totaly in love with each other ,but you're well grown ,very decent lady to remember you're already engaged too. But,if you think that he's the one, not the one who you engaged to, then you've got a decision to make. If you're SO SURE i mean. If you're not, please be careful not to let your feelings to grow. If this guy won't make the first move, you'd better confess and come to a conclusion. Prevention is better than cure > apply to our feelings too ,sweet heart.
So once again I say.. Listen to what your heart say,but not to be a slave to your feelings. Don't pick a wrong decision if you're not sure,so you would lose both of them. Don't lose moon while looking for stars.
Good luck! :) you may find your TRUE love written in your destiny! <3