My boyfriend of over a year just broke up with me after I wrongly accused him of cheating on me. He says I don't trust him and when I say I do trust him he says he doesn't trust that I mean that. He says we can't have a relationship without trust and that this is really hard for him too. He said he still loves me but he's not in love with me anymore. He said our spark is gone but he said it might comeback in a week or in a few months/ year. He said he'll still be here for me and we can still hangout and talk to each other and I'm still his best friend because that doesn't just go away. I asked him what if there's another girl while we are apart and all he said is I have to trust him and trust that we might work this out. I'll admit I've sent long heart felt texts about accepting my faults and all the consequences for my actions. I also said that I want him to get everything he's ever wanted from I'm life and more and I'll always care about him and maybe this time apart is good for us. I tf him I trust that what's meant to be will happen and that I trust one day we will find our way back to one another. I told him I trust that one day we can wipe the slate clean and I told him I trust him. I just have to have faith, believe and trust. He used to respond to my text but he hasn't responded to that one yet. Did I say too much or do something wrong? Should I try no contact? I'm scared that during no contact he'll meet another girl. Is he testing me?
Need help with a relationship. I want him back?
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- 3+ months ago by BeyondCon...
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- over, boyfriend, year, back, trust, broke, relationship, cheating, years, relationships
Responses (1)
Maybe you should give him some space for a while, and stop sending him needy texts. It seems like he's open to the idea of getting back together one day but he just wants time alone to think in the meantime. If you do get back together you guys should agree that you will not hide anything from each other and if you can trust each other it will work. I've been accused of cheating by my ex bf when it wasn't true, and it hurt that he didn't trust me to take my word for it. So I have an idea of how he feels, just give it some time and I hope things will work out. Good luck :)
That's good news! If he is willing to meet up with you tomorrow and talk to you then I say go ahead.
He's being hard to get a hold of today :( he's texting me back but he's texting back slowly. When we broke up he said thatcthecspatk between is might come back and maybe we could go to the art museum we went to on out first date again? I really want that to happen. :( I asked him yesterday if he meant what he said about still being best friends and hanging out together and he said yes that's what he wants and when I told him I'm happy about that he said yes with a smiley face. Do you think we have a shot at getting together. Against my better judgment I'm not going to ask him to give me one more week to show him I care and I trust him and we don't have to break up :((
I'm sorry to hear that. Taking a long time to reply doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't want to text you back, he could be busy. But you know him better than I do. I honestly think you guys do have a chance of getting back together because he is willing to take you back to the art museum where it all began. That's so nice :). You guys messed up a little bit, but you're picking yourselves back up and giving it another try. None of you guys made a mistake. He never cheated on you or meant to hurt you from what I know, and I don't blame you for thinking he was cheating I understand. Just don't expect to be back together immediately, the time apart may be needed. I'm not saying you guys are definitely getting back together because I can't see the future. But from the looks of it, it seems like you guys are doing well. Dont worry of he's not texting you back immediately. Usually I take 1-2 hours to reply on texts, and I guess it can be annoying to the person on the other line, but I'm busy most of the day :(. I hope all goes well, and if not- I hate to say- everything happens for a reason. I wish you both the best of luck.
Thank you so much. I never saw this comment. We've been talking more since I stopped talking to him for a few days. I just showed up to his house one morning and we started talking. He would bring things up from our past like little things id always do while smiling. We kissed yesterday :o I wasn't expecting that at all. We were just talking and I hugged him because hex started to look really sad and we just kept hugging then we were just lying down cuddling. He joked about it saying "is this how you treat all your friends" abd I told him "no, should i" and he said "I hope not" the first time he went in to kiss me but pulled away right before it happened and said that's what he was worried about. He's worried about not being at to just be my friend but he doesn't want us to just start up a relationship right now. The next time I initiated the kiss and it went way better than I expected. We promised that was just that one day and well just try being friends from then on. He started texting me a lot but he got mad when I mentioned this other guy that had tried talking to me (who I turned down because I want him instead) I asked him what the problem was and he said nothing he just got jealous/terrortorial which he shouldn't be. It made me happy that he was though :/ i told him he probably doesn't want to hear this from me since I said I'd just be his friend but I love him and I don't want to talk to anyone else because I've already found my perfect guy. And he told me he liked hearing that. But this morning when I told him about a place I went he replied wow you've been doing a lot of things and I said not really and and he said it seems like it then I said I don't see what's wrong he's been doing things without me and he said he just made a comment and txt "ttyl"
Is he upset that I'm going out and doing things? I feel like he's getting jealous since he can't be there with me?
That's good news! I'm glad to hear things have been going well, and I guess he could've just been having a bad day when he said that. He shouldn't be jealous that you have a life, don't tell him that though. Just be nice and give it time and if it is meant to be things will work out :) .
He actually responded to my text and afterwards we started talking like we used to. We might even meet up tomorrow? Should I still back off a little maybe a meting once a week?