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Anyhow - 3 years ago I met a girl at Uni (both late 20s). The connection was immediate. deep and strong. I have been through a lot in my life which had bred a certain level of self awareness and spiritual growth, so I know what I felt was unique - I could feel her in my core. It seemed she could as well. 

Unfortunately I went through some extreme experiences and my mind and body were shutting down. I couldn't ask her out, even through she was giving me every sign and opportunity under the sun (for the entire 9 months of the academic year). 

I ended up going through so much after leaving Uni. When recovering my emotions and mind, I realised that this girl was perfect for me. But now its too late. 3 years have passed and she is happy with someone else, without knowing what I went through and how I felt. I know this as I found her on Facebook. 

I know the sensible thing to do it leave it and move on. But a part of me really wants to contact her, to say 'hello'. maybe even explain if the time came? I suppose I'm looking for some form of guidance from Yahoo, as I have very strong emotions right now and don't want to hurt or confuse anyone.

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I feel you. 
Be there for her no matter what; a friend might be what she needs right now. You have to accept that you missed your chance, even if it is hard. However, you don't want to intervene in her relationship because that will make her angry and she won't even consider you as an option. 
I think you could message her and say hi, want to meet up for a coffee or something and chat? But make sure you do it as friends and not something else, if you love her then you do the right thing to make sure she's happy.
I've had this and to be honest with you, it sucked. He was happy with someone else and I intervened, all it did was strengthen their bond together. As they say, if it's love then she'll come back.
:) Good luck, this is just what I'd do.

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