She wasn't a huge part of my life, or rather, she didn't impact me much. My family was much more devastated then me, and this left me wondering if it was weird that I was virtually unaffected. Social norms tell me I should be if my sister is dead, but acting like I am when I'm not seemed stupid to me. So I haven't. Is that strange, or weird in any way?
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Maybe you are numb and it will hit you later. If it does hit you later just think about if she would have wanted you to be sad. So far if she doesn't want you to feel sad about it then you are doing fine...Just dont forget about her, maybe try going into her room and talking to her stuff, like talking about friends, boyfriends/ girlfriends, crazy teachers, I don't know sister stuff.
Remember every night tell her goodnight and that you love her ( I know it sounds crazy but if the grief hits one day you will be able to cope a little better)
Hope everything gets better
I dont know if this pertains to you but I'm throwing it out for thought.
When a deeply emotional event happens such as divorce, health issue, or death we handle it in all different manners. Sometimes it seems as if it doest affect us. That is usually because our brain rushes in to protection mode. The brain says, "OMG my person can't handle this yet!" So to prevent overload it allows a small portion of acceptance or it says no way and the person becomes exhausted and all they want to do is hibernate or they shed no tears and wonder why everyone else is falling apart. The worry is that at some point the brain will allow emotion and it will all descend.
I would suggest a few grief counseling sessions with a therapist. It can't hurt and it is self-protection.
Condolences on the loss of your sister.
Hi ! First off sorry about your sister committing suicide ! If you were not close to her as in having fun , doing things with her and having a lot of memories with her then it may not affect you at all ! If you were close to her then it may be that her death has not gotten through to you yet ! Both of my parents passed away and in my opinion to suddenly ! Sometimes I can't believe their gone because it just doesn't seem possible or real ! If you were not close to her then you may not feel sad , miss her or anything that others around you feel about her ! In time you may start missing her , feel sad because she is gone and such ! Her death may not affect you for quiet awhile ! Take care ! Thanks