My question is regarding toxic family member who is sucking my and family life. I am a 26 year?

... old man staying with my family. My family consists of me , my brother and my mother. My grandmother moved in with me when i was around 15 years old. The problem is that my grandmother is a very toxic human being. My brother and i are not that close to her because she stayed in my uncle house before moving in with us, we do occasionally visit her but it is totally different when you stay with her.

The reason she moved in to my house is because she cannot get along with my aunty who is her daughther in law and coincidentally my dad just passed away , so she moved in here. For whatsoever reason when she arrived here she disliked my brother. She will talk harshly to him , shout and him. Example when my brother is sleeping , she will shout at him saying " Get up now! Its so late already ! Whats to be of you?!! ". My brother is quite a patient guy who is scared of disrespecting her. She then started gossipping and talk badly of my brother to me such as saying my brother is flithy and lazy not once she kept telling me the same thing over and over again .

When one day my brother brought his girlfriend back home, my grandmother was telling me that how my brother was delusional for thinking that his girlfriend will wanna marry or engage with him. I was shocked , imagine how can your own grandmother say that about her own grandson ??? I lost a bit of respect for her but in my mind was that " if she was talking like this about me then wow im going to be against her ". Then as time went by i noticed she also dont like me too , she only will be nice to me when she need something like asking me to go to the shop and buy something , i heard her talking to one of my aunts about how she is suffering staying since moving in to my house, badmouthing my family especially my brother and i , she also shouted at me before over the phone because i stayed over at my friends house which my mum already approved and she was overseas that day so i called my grandmother just to inform her. Actually whats wrong with staying over at a friends place ?? What i think is she is actually lonely and pissed that nobody accompanies her.

There as also an incident where i was atching TV with my brother in the living room like normal and we were joking around an playing with each other, my grandma was behind us watching too. Suddenly when we were watching TV together happily and playing as normal teenagers do , she shouted something like " what nonsense is this ?! " She was referring to me and my brother who were playing with each other . My brother kinda get scared and suddenly be quiet and stop playing. I was pissed off, there is nothing wrong with what we are doing , we are just teenage kids who are having fun at home. She was just pissed because she was at the back watching the TV in an awkward situation and lonely , while we are having fun in front of her.

Since that day I and my brother avoided watching TV in the living room and he was just watching shows on the computer while i wil watch TV in the room with my mum. She was all alone using the living room and she feels lonely in a house full of family members. My brother and i becamse a bit distant and not as close as we did few activities which are together, watching TV was actualy one of them.

Then one day which is the day where she betrays me , i got back from school and was caught in the rain but my bag was not that wet, she then was cleaning up my room and she opened my bag and saw a pornography VCD in my bag. She then told me about it , i was kinda pissed off at first because she opened my bag which is my personal stuff but i know was wrong then she told me that she is not gonna tell my mum about it and she was giving me a chance and dont do it again. Then one day i was back home quite late as i went out to watch soccer with my friends and then i did not have enough money for transport to go home so i bought a train ticket which allow me access to the train but later i will not be able to exit the station because i did not pay the correct fares. My mum was really mad and angry at me when she waited outside the station for me as she need to pass me some money so that i can pay the total train fare. Then .... wow ! she told me that grandma said that she found a pornography VCD in my bag and i was scolded badly in front of my friends. Wow ! i was pissed off. The point is i did not beg her not to tell my mum about the porn VCD , she was the one who said she will not tell her. I was angry to the point that i feel i wanted to beat her up. Imagine you are betrayed by someone who you have respect for and an old person.

Then tomorrow she act normally as though she has not do anything wrong to me and was instructing me to help her go to the shop and stuff and also need to bring her to the clinic. This time i gave her my angry face and slammed the door when i close it on the way to the shop and also i did not talk much to her while accompanying her to the clinic and i avoid and gave her the cold shoulder at home. In my thinking how can i listen and help a person who actually disliked me and betray me and only nice to me during occasions where she need me to help run her errand. In a real world , what do you do to a person you know is a betrayer ? abuser ? fake ?.

So throughout the years even my mum knows that i have problem getting along with my grandma and now she already stop talking to me which is what i wanted. Actually there is so many more stupid things that happened which i think is too much to list down here. She has now become very quiet and only talk occasionally to my mum and pretend to be nice to my brother. My relationship with my brother suffered terribly as he thinks i am a bad and rude person as i did not openly share my problems of grandma to him.

Then in past few years now we got a maid to look after her and she has since back to her nonsense ways , she has been badmouthing about me to the maid and make all maids who has worked with us hate me. She will say stupid hurtful things about me when my mum not around such as there was one day when i was back from work wearly due to i need to go to an appointment somewhere, she being an idiot who does not know anything suddenly shouted like " ohhh i am sick " sarcastically as i walked past her because she thought i was sick and went back early, even after eid mubarak after asking her forgiveness, she will pretend to be good because my mum was there. The next few days she was at it again , i was in te bathroom bathing when she shouted " i am cooking this dish ! If its delicious or not , its up to you! " . She invented few stories about me before that i dislike eating her cooking and i told her its not nice but actually what i said i did not eat a certain type of dish that she cooked, i also did not eat that dish if my mum cook it.

I also heard her mocking my brother's job to the maid. So the thing that i do now is when i walk past her is i will run so that to avoid listening to all the nonsense she wanna say.

So this nonsense still persists till this day and i am really tired of this nonsense happening in my house. How can somebody who moved in to your house and create this kind of nonsense and disturbs your life and peace?? Because of her i did not have my own room in my house to accommodate her , because of her i cant go out during Eid mubarak to celebrate like normal youngsters do because so many people come over my house. Because of her everybody thinks i am kinda bad rude person , my realtionship with my brother suffered. To put it solely the day she moved over to my house is the greatest disaster ever that happened.

She is old and her life is not affected that much because i am young and i am the person who is living the life now , trying to achieve my dreams and so on. She has aready fulfilled her life at now at the end stages of her life , she should be in a position as in for example a coach who is old and teaching a player who is living the life of a sportsman as because the coach knows he already has his moment in his life as a young sportsman and now his time is over its his job to help the young player to achieve his best.

So i think the best solution is i hope my grandma die as soon as possible, this may sound kida harsh but look at it she his in her 80s and im 25. Frankly speaking what is she has to do in this world anymore ? other then waiting for death. If she is unhappy in earth now and making others unhappy and sucking the energy out of their life , the best solution is to leave this world.

I would like to hear comments from you guys.

Thanks !