I told her I was gonna put my last name in the baby's name, there's gonna be my last name and her sons last name, so both last names will be in the baby's name but she doesn't seem to like my idea. She seems like she only wants her sons last name. We have a baby girl that's 19 months and this is gonna be our 2nd baby. The 19 month old baby only has her sons last name not mine but this time I want to put mine. She said my 19 month old is not gonna feel good enough when she's older just because she doesn't have my last name in her name and she also said our new baby is gonna have to spell him/her whole name in school. What's her problem??
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Your mother in-law needs to be reminded that this is your baby. What ever name that your and your babies daddy decide to give it is up to you and your babies daddy and she has no legal power over the decision. It's okay for your in-law to voice her opinion, but like I said before the final decision belongs to you and the babies father. She needs to get over it and move on if you don't agree.
The most common way that this problem is settled, is if the baby is a boy then the father gets to name him. If the baby is a girl then the mother gets to name him. That's how my parents did it, my father named me after himself and I'm glad to have his name. I hope this helped.
I have two sons. Both of them have my last name as their middle name and they love it. The middle and last names should be historical and define the child's heritage - both sides. We are adopting a little girl from China and we are doing the same thing. The first name is who they are, the middle and last names are who they're from. I used to babysit for a mother I really admired and all her children had her maiden name as their middle name. I kept my maiden name and my oldest son now hyphenates them because my name is Irish and he loves using it! I have sisters who regret not doing this because their kids never use their middle names and they wish they had put their family name instead.
just do what u want because i dealt with this long time ago and now i cant change my sons last name without paying money or going to court because the mother decided to fight and take him from me so i would put both.i won but keep your mind open for future reference because its a problem when things are brought up...like cps and court. claiming there grandchild from me was one i had problem with and last name was her last name and her sons and it makes it harder to win. i still won but future reference i would do both so she does not do something like that.
Apologize for typo
He/She's instead of it's.
it seems suspicouse and familiar to me. planning something or shes afraid of something. Maybe she thinks u guys arent going to last....have no idea but it sounds weird.