My mom has anger issues and now their only getting worse after a terrible divorce. Right now its just my mom and my sister and I. She gets so mad at the littlest things and then starts including all of our other problems. She says things like "You guys never help around the house" "you two are so disrespectful" "If I'm such a terrible mom why don't you go live with your father". Its like she's putting words in our mouth. She always brings things back to the divorce and every time she brings up the divorce it fuels her with more anger. She starts comparing us to people in a negative way and starts calling us by those names. When we have events with school, we tell her in advance many times but when the day comes she gets so mad because "we never told her what's going on". My mom's not that old but she's losing her memory and every time she forgets, it more anger towards us. It really hurts sometimes the things she says. My sister and I try to control the conversations we have and make them more civilized in way or even try to accept defeat and drop the conversation as a whole and move on, but it never works. My sister and I try to get help from family, friends, and even a school counselor, but she gets mad at that because "It's nobodies business but our own. You don't have to go around telling people about our problems". I really think we need to go to a family therapist and my sister and I have both tried to suggest it to her but she refuses. I just don't know what to do. I do great in school, but somedays I just want to stay at school and not come home. I need help, I need a way to calm her down or some way to deal with her. Thank you.
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I don't think that you can really help her any she refuses to believe that there is a problem what caused the divorce if you don't mind me asking?you might have to go live with your dad if she can't get a handle on her issues she is in denial it also sounds like she might have dementia this can get worse are there any other family members you can live with it might be a good idea to talk to your dad about this how are you paying the bills?Your mom needs a therapist!
You can go outside when you see one starting to happen or you can leave the room that might be your better bet is just leave the room.
They divorced because of many issues but some are psych issues, bipolar depression and him just hiding a lot of things from my mom. My dad doesn't pay for much and we don't even want to live with him or have anything to do with him(he's just a bad guy) and for some reason she can't understand that. Is there a way to avoid her "explosions"?