I’m full time student and I make 15,000 salary on my part time job. My husband has a company and he makes$420,000. additionally to my income. He pays me an allowance of $100 per week when I do his employees payments and invoices. our incomes are completely separated. And he doesn’t pay for my stuff. When I need financial help like doctor visit or to pay for my tuition he tells me to ask my parents or my brother he even got to the point to tell to sell my car so I can afford to pay college tuition. I don’t have equal access to the family resource. he treats his money as his and not ours. He is also saving a lot of cash and keeping it with his brother. he told me he is planning to buy a house. but he never ask about my opinion. i do not participate in financial decision. I don’t know what to do. i talked to him about How i shouldn’t ask my parents about money and then he offered to pay for my dentist. But he still treat me as i’m his employee and he is the boss and that the money he makes is his and not ours. Please advice how to talk to him about this?
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I think that you should tell him what you told us. Be open with your husband and tell him that you don't feel comfortable about asking your family for money. Try not to sound aggressive or needy, but rather cool and collected. Remind him that you are his equal and not one of his staff members. However, if he is planning to surprise you with a house or a vacation or something, try to be patient, but if you can't stand it any longer, then try talking to him directly. Make him want to change his mind, show him that he is wrong and if he doesn't accept then I guess you should try another time.
Sorry if this wasn't really helpful, I still am trying to understand all the financial aid and stuff. I hope you can change his mind, and remember that he is your husband and that he does love you dearly. Good Luck! I wish for the best. :)
I would say to submit to your husband, but he is treating you extremely unfairly. Speak to him and tell him that you are his wife not his slave. He is in charge of his money but you deserve your equal share in it... You are in a marital union. He should not be treating you like this it's not right