Hi,
If I report my bipolar husbands violece to the police. I'm in Florida where this is not handled lightly I just want to have it put down. Not more! But I don't want him to have bad records where future employers look them up and never employ him again! Can I just go to the police station and say that the last violence happened 10 days ago (it's frequent, maybe twice per month) or is it now too late to report it. Like I said: I don't want him arrested for sure, I have zero money to pay for our place, no job, lost all my weight, can't work, all relatives died! and no friends in the US either! And nowhere to go. I'm in no condition to go into a shelter and I'm not scared of my husband that he could seriously harm me! I just want to pay him finally a lesson to report the incidents without him having bad records. We are planning once I have my papers to go to europe to get free medical treatment as a last try for our marriage. I also believe he's very ill. His diagnoses is bipolar rapid cycling. A very old psychiatrist, very expensive,overdosed him,2 bad experiences and now we wait for Europe.
My husband has attacked me (not like an abuser causing blue eyes) but more getting out of control in mania or depression trying to make me stop to speak when I was very calm and mild. Mildly kicking me, throwing stuff at me, hitting me with towels and with his hand on my arm, threatening me, bruises, it happened around 60 times in the last 2 years since we married. Like I said I just want to pay him a lesson in the hope that he will then know he can't do whatever he wants to me! without causing him a bad record! Or arresting him!
My husband is bipolar, can I report him without causing bad records?
- Posted:
- 3+ months ago by Avan14
- Topics:
- police, down, husband, florida, violence, report, record, bad, bipolar
Added 3+ months ago:
When he gets angry it doesn't seem a normal controllable anger like healthy people have. He says he loses all his passion, his desire, his will and willpower, has no love anymore. And zero affection. At that moment his love for me is completely gone! He feels no regard and at that moment thinks it's justified, later he feels completely different. But it's very cruel for me emotionally as he is so cold and thinks so wrong and whatever I do or say and however kind I am he can't move on and stays upset and angry and doesn't want to hug or help me, no matter in how much emotional pain I am. We have usually around 5 good days when he does everything for me, provides, cleans, cooks is very loving, considerate and doesn't get mad. Then after around 5 days he changes and overreacts, starts to say things which hurt my feelings, misunderstands and because of a small thing totally gets into an upset stage where his whole thinking changes: he blames now me, doesn't went the marriage anymore, can't move on when I take the blame, is angry, things wrong things and I'm not able to reason with him the same way as before to change his mind. I don't know what to do he's been threatening me this morning. I believe he is a good man but there is always a doubt left in me. And I just want to show him that I'm not taking everything without any consequences.
Responses (1)
Go to court an have him commited, the only way to avoid him having a record for domestic violence is to go to court or talk to a medical professional about having him commited somewhere, also they have a year from the date you say it happened to bring a case against him and it there choice to do so if you go to the police and they see marks on you that show abuse they can arrest him.
Ok a couple things here...if he truly cant control it then you cant teach him a lesson,also in some states once you go to the police they may decide to take charges against him without your consent,in if someone is leaving bruises....that only escalates,and it seems your only reason for not putting him in jail is because youre scared to take control of your own life...shelters help get women back on their feet,help them find jobs places to live sounds like your only staying for a place to stay and so that your not alone,are these good enough reasons to put your life in danger,i didnt sense your love for him,to me he seemes like finacial security and nothing more i hope theres no kids involved....i been there done that,i got out of the violence...hope you get it figured out....good luck and God bless