Okay so I've been with my girlfriend for 6 months now, and we are in love with each other. I'm 14 she is 15. We are super close and personally with each other, We have taken each others virginity (mom doesnt know) and we are just so attached to each other. We live an hour away from each other so we can't see each other everyday, but we Skype like every night and text each other all day. But we argue sometimes like once every week or two weeks, and her mom knows it. They weren't bad arguments there just has been some un-loyal problems in our relationship that neither of us are over but we will get over eventually. Now we argued the other day, and her mom saw, and she didn't like the way I talked to her daughter in the argument, and now she hates me. She has grounded her, she tried to get her to call me and end it but she called me and said she wanted to stay with me, and got in trouble for that. So we can't talk unless it's super late at night and her mom's asleep. This has been going on for 2 days and I've messaged her mother tons of times apologizing and promising we wouldn't argue again, and that I love her daughter more than anything but she still wont let us date. Does anyone know what I can tell her to make her change her mind or something like that? I do not want to lose her and I need some help on how to talk to her mom. Please help and thank you.
My girlfriends mom is making us break up, help?
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- 3+ months ago by logansmit...
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- mom, love, girlfriend, break up
Answers (1)
This is not a criticism of young individuals but simply an observation and experience. I am 31 years old and I married the woman I met when I was 17 years of age. She was my only serious relationship and will probably be the last considering we are married and have a beautiful daughter. We married at the tender age of 21 (her) and 22 (Me).
Now, not everyone will succeed in a relationship, but more than love one must have patience and flexibility to the others' feelings. If her mother believes you to be capricious and abusive toward her daughter, messaging her multiple times will only increase that belief. I would advise that you demonstrate through actions and not words what you believe you have to offer her daughter.
That would mean being responsible, caring, and mature. Unfortunately, you are still very young and this will be difficult. But do not message her, as this will only make her more determined in her opposition.
Time works wonder, you mentioned this has gone on for 2 days. What is 2 days in comparison to the time her mother has known her daughter? Nothing, in fact, you are a footnote in the life of her daughter as far as she is concerned.
If you are serious about making this relationship work you must earn the respect of her mother through actions. Your words are those of a child, but the actions of children can be just as mature as that of an adults.