Im 17 years old and Me and my girlfriend have been together for awhile now. We have been through a lot and recently she got extremely drunk and can only remember some of what happened. Basically what happened is she got drunk and had sex with some other guy she said she doesnt really know. She can remember some of it but not enough to be sure. anyways now she may think shes pregnant. She says if she is she wants to abort it because she still loves me and she doesnt want a kid. But her parents may make her keep the baby i think. What do I do in this situation? Stay or let things take its course and move on? I still love her but the memory of all this kills me inside, and know she has cheated makes me hesitant. But i do love her still even tho i hate what shes done. Anyways, what do i do in this situation?
Responses (8)
I don't know how long you guys have been together. Seeing as though you both truly love each other and if this is the first time she has ever put herself in a situation like this and ended up getting drunk is horrible but that she had the guts to tell you even though she knew she could lose you is a good thing cause she must have really felt bad about it. If you can deal with her (maybe) being pregnant then you should try and work it out cause it seems as though she feels bad and wont do it again if she told you in the first case.
You sound like you really love her, but you should really talk this thing out with each other. First she should decide what she wants to do with the baby, keep it or not. Adoption. That kind of stuff. And make sure it is HER decision and not her parents decision, she should do what SHE wants to do, it's her life. Then you need to decide if you still trust her after this and if you want to be with her. Is your relationship going to be the same? Are you sure this thing isn't going to poison it? Cheating can destroy a relationship so bad! Just talk to each other and hopefully you'll get this thing sorted out.
drugs and alchohl will lead to more cheating and its bad for your health. encourage her to stop. :)
What if i told her that and she acts like its no big deal?
you should take a break. her saying this is like her saying that she doesnt care she cheated. it sounds like she isnt even trying compromise. follow your heart :)
You love her, forgive her. It might be hard but you can do it :)
And if she is truly sorry, it won't be to hard.
Make sure she does not abort the Baby!! Please convince her to do something else!
People every where would be more then happy to adopt a baby!!
I will keep you in my prayers!!!
did you split of for a period of time ?you have to put together the facts before you render your decision you have to know more about it has she did a pregnancy test so to know for sure how many periods has she missed after this I would suggest getting some type of birth control if that's a option but you really have to get all the story to understand what went on
She will cheat again. Move on, and time will heal. Even though it dont seam like it, eventually youll meet someone else and fall in love. I was cheated on by my high school sweeheart when I was 19, we'd been together for 5 years. I never thought I'd love anyone like that again, and although I didnt meet my wife until I was 28, she is the best thing that has ever happened to me.
At first, you may find it hard to believe that someone you love could hurt you so badly. You might even start to blame yourself for his or her conduct.
Please don't blame yourself. Betrayal is very hard to over come because loyalty is built on trust and is important in any relationship. You are very young and not married so that's a plus. Learn from this experience. Sad to say many have experience what you have. Your emotions may blind you in thinking straight. Try not to allow someone as such affect yourself esteem. Walk away. Do not allow anger consume you. speak to a good friend or family member about the betrayal and focus your life on building a future. Find people who have good morals who live their lives based on good principles, including respect for others. I found that bible principles are best because these come from a higher source the one who created us. Isaiah 48:17.
For more information on this subject and others, please go to jw.org "Online Library." Also for free downloads, publications or read online.
What if after all this she still wants to do drugs and stuff even if its jus a few times?