Hello everyone. My name is Kingsley Enegide. I am 22 years old from Nigeria.
Please, i have a girlfriend and i have loved her faithfully for up to 5 years now. She was faithful when we started for about 2 years but later started becoming unfaithful when she realized that my mom doesn't want to see us together. Mom doesn’t want to see us together because she intend sending me to school to finish my education. I query with her whenever I caught her cheating on me but after being separate for a while, I still forgive her after many apologies. We already promised to marry each other. I always do everything a man does for his girlfriend to her.
She told me she would be helping her mom in her travelling business which made me see her only once in a month. One day she came to me, after playing together, she said she was pregnant and also said that she wasn’t so I didn’t understand her. She travelled again and this time, stayed for up to 2 months and 2 weeks before calling me that she was pregnant for me and that the pregnancy was already 4 months old. She said she has already given the baby to another man that he owns the pregnancy and now living with him at home. I asked why, she said that it was because of my mom’s behavior and that I still have to go to school. In my culture, it is a taboo for a woman to give a baby to the wrong father not alone sleeping with the person since the pregnancy occurred. So I am confused as to whether the baby is really for me as she said or for the other man but just trying to trick me to still keep a relationship with me.
I am now annoyed. I tried to see if anything can be done to solve the issue but I was warned seriously by a spiritualist that I should give up and let her go forever otherwise there would be bloodshed in near future that the baby was not for me alone that she should continue with the person she is living with now since I can’t share a baby. Can 2 people be responsible for a pregnancy? I was told too that she is a trust betrayal and that I should be careful about sexually transmitted diseases.
Now, my parents and other family members are now aware of the matter and it has now made them hate her more. Now, not only my mom but in addition to other family members and neighbors don’t want me to continue with her. I was left with no choice than to tell her it was over between us. I called her told her it was over, why it was over and that nothing else can be done but she is now crying every day that it was a mistake. Now she is pleading guilty that she did that to help me so that I wouldn’t be dropped out of school. Now the other guy already took her and the baby to be his own. She told me she would be able to handle it and come back to me but I have been warned seriously to let go that the war from the other guy would not be easy for me to win.
PLEASE HELP!!! I AM CONFUSED!!! WHAT DO I DO???
