My girlfriend for a year broke up with me cas I said some hurtful things. But it wasn't even that bad. She said she'll never get back together with me because she doesn't feel confortable around me. And she feels self conscious around me. I've tried everything and I love her so much. I just want her back. What should I do. Please help.
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First, remember that even though you say it wasn't that bad, it was obviously bad enough for her to leave you. Each person has a different threshold as to what they can cope with. Here's what you can do, show her you are changing by your actions and words. Give her the space she needs. Do not go out of your way to be "hey look at me! Look how I've changed! Aren't I good?" This won't do you any favours. You need to do it as though she isn't watching, in fact do this even when she is not around, you never know who might be watching.
This will take time, it could be over years, but if you love her as you say you do, you will be willing to work at this.
Finally, be respectful of her choice, if she says she doesn't want to get back together, then you will need to move on.
Be gentle, humble, kind, a gentleman, valiant, loving, it's about the emotion, not just the physical. In terms of physical, be aware of her boundaries. Be respectful of her and mindful of her needs. If she want's to hold hands, do so, if not, don't.
I don't know how to physically show her or how I help her from being self conscious around me.