My friend group just lost some great friends, and now tere are only four of us. I know a few other people who I want to get to know better, but they are completely opposed to it, and say, "we'll hook up with more people in high school." I don't want to wait that long. They also don't havs similar interests and me, and often laugh when I tell them things about myself that I usually keep quiet. What should I do?
My friends don't want to make more friends but I do. Help?
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I don't have a facebook, myspace, twitter, or other social networking account. My parents don't allow it (I'm in 8th grade) so while that would work, it won't in my situation. Thank you, though.
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frst of all..., however they might be..they are ua frnds..u have spent a lot of tym wd them...try to b more comfy..wid ua own group...make it so much rocking dat u wont feel d need of other frnds...
if ua interests doesn't match wd dem..u can focus on somethin on whch all of u have d same point of view..,
If it doesn't work..,try to sort out y dey dont need odr frnds...u can convince dem somehow...or u can find sum1 who does hav similar interests..dont rush on to make more frnds...let them b few...but let them b true...
Hope this helps...
No you shouldn't have to try harder. Talk it out but if they don't get you, then don't ditch them but start interracting with other people. Make new good friends.
But don't ignore the older friends. Give them time but tell them that they should understand that they don't own you and you want to make new friends. Tell them how you feel while having a get together.
If they think you are weird, well that's not your problem and you should totally interract with other cool people out there
I can actually relate to this because i underwent something like this.....
Well, first try to steer your friends in the direction you want. Like, tell them 'hey look! That girl looks kinda nice. mind if we go and talk to her?'
and things like these.
But if they don't do that (bcuz some people just are private), they are your friends so don't ditch them but make friends with other people outside your circle.
Give equal time to all your friends.
Try to make your group (like your 4 friends) and your other friends interact with each other.
But if you think that your differences with your friends are too great and they just don't understand you, then remain on friendly terms with them but start going out with your other friends, the people who understand you and love you for yourself.
And girl! Having fb or myspace or twitter is no big deal!
tell your friend you are trying out the spirit of individuality.
Make it sound cool that you are so individual and unique that while everyone else has stupid things like fb or twitter, you thrive and have a social life without them.,
Trust me facebook is super boring........like there is absolutely nothing to do except things like liking statuses, seeing pictures people upload or getting likes on pic, chatting with friend (that you can actually do on the phone) so it's lousy.......
Trust me you are so not missing out anything.
Go out there girl! enjoy life! MAKE friends :D
Thank you sooo much! Yours is the best response, I think.
I don't want to ditch my current friends, they are like family, but just can be... stuborn sometimes. We all are. ;-)
And I love not having a fb or Twitter! It DOES make one unique, I've noticed.
I will be trying your idea out the next time my friends come over. Thank you soo much!!!
your welcome :)
I am glad I could help :D
Thank you, and that is very helpful, however I have been coping with this for over a year now. I almost never tell them what I'm passionate about anymore, because they just say 'Why do you like THAT?' It hurts my feelings sometimes that I can't be compleatly honest with them, and I think it's hurting our friendship. One of them I've known since kindergarten (lemme think... 9 years now) and has tried to listen to me as well, but my other two friends are still close-minded. I used to tell them everything, but now if I even mention, say, LOTR, they think I'm weird. Should I try harder still or tell them how I feel?