At this point I wonder if its too late, me and my ex been having sex from time to time even at times when I don't want to. When we go out he always wants to hold my hand,he even tells people that I'm he's. Could it b more than just sex. Does he still want me abd is too afraid to say. There are a million other women he could b with but he still comes to me. He has a bad habit of just showing up and expecting to get it from me. Even when I'm mad at him and refuse to talk to him he stops by and tries to make me feel good just by having sex with him. At this point I'm ready to put a stop to it I don't want to b just sex with him. I want something more a commitment. He tells ne he don't want no one else and is not looking for be body. Even with him saying that he still tells me about all these other women he be hanging with I don't know if its a lie just to make me mad or jealous. We been broken up fir five months and together for six years. We have two son's age one and two. My whole situation is confusing because I'm trying to figure him out because he is not really telling me nothing. I'm pretty much going by his actions. I often ask myself if he really had all those women I don't see how if he is always trying to see me why not b with them then. When he does show up at my house he always drunk. He didn't used to b like this. All this drinking and popping pills is not right. I feel like he is killing himself just by the way he looks..... I hate seeing him like this I wish we could b a family AGAIN. And he would seek help. He is 26 I don't want him to die at a young age
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at this point with his drugs and alcohol addiction i don't think he's capable loving you the same way anymore. i also don't think he's the right person for you if he'd rather drink and do drugs than take care of family (like a real father would.) i think you need someone to help you get him out of your life. because the drugs and alcohol aren't good things to have around the kids. and don't let him have sex with you if you don't want sex you need to know how to just say no and if he doesn't like it then file a restraining order on him. letting him control you that way isn't healthy for you.
you need to have someone that will love you and the kids while you guys are raising the family. this isn't a good lifestyle for either of you.
Well, feeling are but choices you can make. So, you can choose to make a better live for you and your kids or stay stuck in the same only misserable one. It's up to you.
I'm only 26 I got NY whole life in front of me, best thing for me to do is focus on me and my two sons. Maybe I can just love him from a distance.. besides I'm sure I can find love again and maybe one day he realize what he had. Thanks very much this means a lot to me. I glad I had someone to talk to and listen...
i'm glad you agree with my answer. i've had similar problems with an ex-friend and i just decided to end my friendship with him because he's not the kind of friend i want. he had dreams of his own and now he's letting drugs ruin those dreams and your husband didn't see that he had a better life than he thought but that's on him.
i find it easy to talk to people about drugs and alcohol cause i've seen the effects it can have on people.
Yes mam its kind of hard when i dont have no one to talk to. Im just greatful to have sites like this for help and Congrats to you, I hope I can oneday but its hard because we have kids. He doesn't know now that all the drinking and weed and the pooping of the pills he is doing will effect him oneday. It just sucks because he wasn't like this when we were together now that's all he is about.....
@Helen thanks at this point the only thing I could do is focus on me and my children I can't change people its going to take him to do that on his own. Maybe oneday he will if its not too late. Life does go on
actually i'm not a woman (22 male) no offense taken though. i've had a couple friends in the past with drug problems and i've never found it difficult to just say no. i think those DARE classes helped with that. i actually payed attention in some classes when i was in school. especially science, computers and english. anyways it's still possible for you to go to college if you haven't all ready. i'm still looking into autoCAD careers. but i have to wait for disability first i'm kind of stuck right now. bottom line, you should get a degree. it might be difficult with the kids but if you have family or friends i think they would help. i think that's what family shoul be there for. it'll benefit you in the long run.
Thanks very much and I'm sorry by the way. I was n college I only had a half year to go. I ended up getting pregnant so I had to take time off. I wish you the best and I'm glad you stuck to what u learned n dare class's. I myself choose to stay away from that to.
well ,according to my religion ,sex is not for free ,there must be a commitment,love caring and then comes sex .He like your body- that is clear - but there should be no sepration between your body and your soul ,so if he accept your body he should accept your soul too. This is the essence of what is called FAMILY .
Thank you very much, its like I know I can do better and deserve better well me and my kids. I just choose not to, mainly because I feel that I can't love no one else but him. When he comes around I can't help but get those feelings again.