My ex-girlfriend left me broken and numb, but then she decided to hook up with my only friend. Now I am enraged and want to cut it off with both of them but that would leave me with nobody but myself. I can’t think straight so I need an outside opinion.
My ex hooked up with my only friend?
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- 3+ months ago by Chaostiel
- Topics:
- friend, girlfriend
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I can understand your feelings. If you feel that you cannot simply dismiss the matter. In that case it might be best to approach your friend. But be careful not to do so when you’re angry. The Bible states: “An enraged man stirs up contention, but one that is slow to anger quiets down quarreling.” (Proverbs 15:18) So wait until you’ve cooled down before you attempt to resolve the situation.
When you do approach your friend, remember that your objective isn’t to “return evil for evil.” (Romans 12:17) Rather, your goal is to settle matters and restore the friendship. (Psalm 34:14) So speak from the heart. You could say, “We’ve been friends for some time. Can we talk about what happened?” Once you know the cause of the problem, it may be easier to mend the friendship. Even if your friend is unresponsive, you can find comfort in the fact that you have tried to restore peace
Granted, even the best of friendships may undergo occasional strain. When that happens, do whatever you can to mend the relationship. Really, being willing to patch up differences is evidence that you’re a mature adult
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That must be really hard for you. A less than desirable situation. Even though technically she is allowed to date your friend, it is morally questionable and usually not well received by anyone.
Now, of course it would be best to restore the friendship with your friend, but you might need some time to heal from the relationship first. Maybe ask the friend for some time for you to get over everything. Of course that would leave you alone, but in the meantime I suggest you try and make new connections with other people, maybe through a music or sport group, through church (if you are religious), or enrol in other courses in your local community, even online you will find local meetup's that meet in restaurants or hike together or whatever you may be interested in. Distraction is a good idea right now.