we started dating off and on from the time we were fourteen to the time we were nineteen years old. We had other relationships in between breakups. After a painful divorce from my children's dad when I was about twenty two years old, we started dating again. I again broke up with him because I had very deep feelings for my ex husband and I was hurting and I didn't want to lead him on. After we had been broke up for about twenty years, he acts bitter around me. He also would not befriend me on facebook. I went to stay with his sister for a little while when I was going through my divorce and was sleeping in one of her bedrooms. When I woke up I saw him standing there watching me sleep. He stared for a little while longer and then left the room. There was an awkward silance between us. After staying at his sister's house for about three weeks, he got into an argument with his wife and left her and my ex begged me back and his sister agreed to let us stay in her basement until we found a place. In short, my ex husband and I was renting his sister's basement and he was living upstairs. He still would not talk to me and was very cold to me when we were alone. I guess my question is , why is he still so cold towards me after twenty years? I do really miss him as a dear friend and wish he wasn't so cold. .....does he hate me?