... it sucks.but anyways when my daughter is left alone with them i ask her if anyone hurt her ,or did anyone hurt her toot(private area) and sometimes she says yes and other times no.i will say things like "did daddy touch your toot?" i just feel like i really need to stress the point so she will know to tell me if he or anyone has.My husband (her dad) is very hard on her and makes her cry alot and i hate it but i know he is just correcting her.anyways a few days ago all on her own she said "grandma did ahhh no ,daddy did." and i said "daddy did what?" and she said "daddy touched toot" I have asked her again since then and she either answers yes or no to him doing that.my question is...could she just be repeating what i say to her cause he is harder on her and shes just mad at him? or should i be more worried ?i would also like to add...she doesnt seem scared of her daddy at all accept for when he yells at her wich needs to be done sometimes to a 3 year old.and she doesnt act like she knows about that area down there.she dosnt touch there or anything.and i feel like if something happend she would notice herself more then she does.I just dont know what to do.I want to work on a happy life with my husband and try to think the best of him and i also dont what my daughter to think i dont beleive her about something so horrible.I think i should stop questioning her for awhile and trust that she would tell me on her own.just incase she is just reapeating what i say. PLEASE no mean comments.I wont pay any attention to them so dont waste your time.and thank you to anyone that can help me!also i have my reasons for thinking this.and i was raised never to trust men from my mother.she was hurt sexually from men and i grew up feeling like you cant trust any of them.i realize i may have a problem with trust.I LOVE MY DAUGHTER VERY MUCH AND DONT TRY TO MAKE ME OUT TO BE SOME KREEP. I realize i may have went about this the wrong way.I just want to make the right decision between my husband and daughter now
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Sorry pls let ask is he her father? If No then there is a problem but if Yes then you should pray about these so you child will not be a victim of your mums past. Secondly try and see if you can talk to your husband about this, don't put it straight to him tell it to him like a story and see what he'll say.
I understand your concern, you are a mom and protective of your daughter understandable. You have no evident that your husband has been any where near your daughters "toot" in any appallingly way. Al tho your mom was " abused " and stressed to you to watch your daughter you might be over reacting in this case. I hope this eases your concerns.