I'm getting married in a couple of months. My fiancée and I agreed it would be easier to not have a wedding party, including no MOH or bestman. The reason was to put this money towards the food, booze, and entertainment. We also didn't want to burden our friends with tasks.
My dad was re-married 14 years ago and he asked me to be his best man. We have a better relationship than most father/sons but my dad by nature is a very insecure and narcissistic person. So when he heard we were not having a wedding party he told me that he was hurt that I didn't ask him to be my best man, since he asked me to be his.
I felt this was presumptuous on his part to think that by default he would be my best man. I thought by not having any wedding party this would not be an issue, but he has made it an issue. He still feels that there is no reason why I still couldn't have him as a best man.
MY fiancée and I are paying for the whole wedding ourselves, so in the end he has no say, but I think it's bull s#$%^ for him to even bring it up. I feel my fiancée and I made a agreed upon decision to not have a wedding party, and if I give into my dad's wishes I will be betraying my fiancée.
My fiancée and her mom have a better relationship that my dad and I do, and she is not going to be MOH.
I feel I need to stick with our original decision, deal with my dad's attitude, for the benefit of my future marriage. Thoughts?
