Okay, so I met my second cousin about two weeks ago at a family gathering. I hadn't seen him for eight years, so I was about seven the last time we met. We were both shy and at first, we didn't talk that much. Then, after a while, we played a soccer game and began talking. We swam in the ocean, watched movies...It was so fun! At the end of the day, when he had to leave, I asked for him number so we could text. He gave me his number and I gave him mine. Then we hugged, said goodbye and that was it. Now we text everyday. At first it was just casual talk. Then he began saying 'I love you' in his messages when he had to leave. I began saying 'I love you too' back, only as a joke. Last night we were planning to see each-other again at the next family gathering and verse each-other in another soccer-game. Since I'm a girl, he asked me if there were any rules against being aggressive. I said there was, like no punching or anything. Then he asked, only punching? and brought up all these other aggressive moves like, biting, and tripping...hugging. I started laughing and said you can't bite or trip but you can definitely hug! I was just saying it as a joke but he texted back and said 'what about kissing?' I was kind of shocked and I didn't know what to say. He's my second cousin after all! So I said 'we could only kiss on the cheek' just as a joke. I'm not sure if he likes me but we are both teenagers and I don't know if it's just hormone changes or something. I don't know if he's really crushing on me. But I'm afraid I'll start feeling the same way D: can someone tell me if my cousin is crushing on me please!
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its a possibilty that he may be crushing but i think to he really doesn't have anybody he gets along with that he can talk to as well as do things with as well as hang out with i would just keep it the way it is unless you get some type of information that says different just be good friends
Alright, look at it this way. It is completely normal for cousins to have small crushes on each other because you two didn't stay in the same house hold together and you look at each other as very close friends. So of course something is going to happen at some point. Everybody else has a different opinion on 1st and 2nd cousins dating and know that marrying your first cousin is illegal in 21 US states. But 2nd, 3rd, 4th, etc cousins can marry in any state because of little to none birth defects if you have a child with them. And this is your second cousin you are talking about so lets say you ever have a child with him then there would be a 3% chance that your child would have a birth defect. People say that having a child with your second cousin is inbreeding but to me its not because you only share 3.13% of dna. Which is a little more than a complete stranger. If you ever have a crush on him just know that it's normal. But talk to your parents about it and see there view on it, because you never know what they'll say. But know that it's not wrong, and as im reading your comment. It seems like its a possibility that he could like you but be on edge because you'll never know.
If I may, it's just wrong for cousins to like cousins. Even if they are like wayyyy distant relatives it's still just wrong. Sorry but what if you do fall in love and get married and have children. First, society with look down upon you because, well, it's incest and two if you do have children it could lead to serious birth defects. Not saying it would go that far! But, you know it could.