My boyfriend (29) and I (27) are having an issue, and I'm looking for some input. Sorry this is so long, but I feel like I need to explain the situation. I love him dearly, and he's a wonderful person, but he's driving me crazy!
My question: Is it rude to let 5+ alarms go off while your partner is trying to sleep? I don't know if I'm just being crazy with hormones, or if other people would be equally annoyed.
He has to get up for work at 4:30am. However, I'm pregnant and have been told to stay home currently due to some issues. My normal wake-up time is anywhere between 6am-8am. To avoid keeping him up at night, I get in bed at the same time he does and I'm totally happy to just lay there, watch Netflix at a low volume, etc. I appreciate what he does for me and baby, and I try my best to help him out by taking care of the housework, dinner, the animals, making his lunch for work, etc.
The problem is his alarms in the morning. His alarm goes off AT LEAST 5 times before he actually even sits up, let alone gets out of bed. This wakes me up at 4:30am too, and I'm the kind of person who can't fall back to sleep once I'm awake. There's an alarm going off every 3-5 mins for the next 20+ mins after the initial one. This is driving me crazy, since at that point I have no hope of getting back to sleep anytime soon, if at all.
I've already told him how completely exhausted pregnancy is making me, and while that should let up soonish (I just hit 2nd trimester), I need to be able to get sleep for me and baby's health too. We got into a fight about it this morning; I was grumpy because I was woken up at 4:30am (it's now past 10am, I still haven't gotten more sleep), and he was irritated that I said anything.
I made the point that I'm not a morning person either, but when I was working and he was not, I got up as soon as the first alarm went off and proceeded to not turn on the lights or make much noise so he wouldn't get woken up. He said, "Well, that's how I wake up,"... saying that he "can't" get up to just one alarm. He chooses to not go to bed until 10:30-11pm every night. I'm at the point where I'm thinking about just sleeping on the couch daily. One alarm would not bother me, as I could fall back to sleep... but not when there's that many going off in a row. I'm a light sleeper, and he's known this.
For the record, I have tried on multiple occasions to tell him to get up (like when we need to go do things at a certain time). It ends up with me saying, "You need to get up," 3 or 4 times, going to get ready, and coming back in the room half an hour later to him still asleep in bed.
