So I have been with this guy for over 4 years and he just recently decided that the army was good for him. I supported him all the way...then he tells me that I should join. We have a 9 month old together and of course I want to provide for her big time but I don't think the army is for me. Of course my bf keeps pushing me into it until I just snap and say no I don't want to. Then he proceeds in telling me that of I don't at least move with him when he is stationed that he will leave me and move on with his life. We have been very rocky and me making the choice to leave is something I don't want to do. Is it wrong of me to not want to move with him? I support him 100% But I shouldn't have to move if I don't want to.
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I believe that you are placed in a difficult situation. It is my understanding that if he truly cared for you he wouldn't place this ultimatum on you. In all honesty only you can make this choice because you know more than anyone else about the dynamics of your relationship. Best of luck :)
For him to give you that ultimatum sucks, to feel like you have no choice is difficult. But from his perspective i understand. You've been with him 4 years and have a kid together. Of course he wants you and his kid to live with him. And from what i hear, the army gives benefits to recruits with a wife and kid. I have two friends married to army guys so he might be joining to help support you two. The ultimatum sucks, but it seems like you don't want to commit to him. And if you don't want to commit to him, does it really matter if he breaks up with you?