Im 19 and i recently moved in with my boyfriend. Hes 26. I love him to death but ive been here for about a month and a half and he keeps using my things without asking. I use mens deoderant sometimes because it holds better. He came to bed one night and i smelled my deoderant i said babe are you wearing my deoderant? He says "oh. Yea. I filgured you wouldnt care" i let that go and said no biggie just dont anymore plz im a germaphobe. He did it two more times and i even bought him his own. Hes done the same with my carmex, hairbrush,socks, lotion,shampoo,lufa,body wash,and toothbrush. He has all of those things of his own. And if not ill usually go get it for him. Again. I dont like germs. He also just grabs my money without asking and says things like "i didnt think youd mind" or "well i needed cigs" i really wouldnt mind if hed just ask. I love him with all my heart and i wont leave him because of this but i also really need him to stop. Any ideas?
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What a piece of work! You'll get naked with a guy but you don't want to share cooties with him. You won't leave him because of this but you need it to stop.
You just need to figure out which side you are on and then act like you mean it. Your guy doesn't care, so you have no reason to keep him around. Dump him.
What are your options? He's not going to stop and you are going to leave him. So where does that leave you?
*Put your cosmetics in a small travel case with a lock on it.
*Get a cancer jar and every night you both drop in your change and when he wants to stink up his hair and the home and give you cancer from second hand smoke he can grab change out of it to go buy his cancer sticks. I'd have a fit about using my money for his addiction and something that could kill me.
*Learn that living with someone means making compromises and and stop worrying about sharing armpit germs. You do both bathe don't you?
*Get into therapy for your OCD.
I find it odd that you get upset because his armpit touches your deodorant which means nothing but you'd be around a smoker whose habit could actually kill you.
"Cleanliness Rules Germaphobes' Lives
Germaphobes are obsessed with sanitation and feel compelled to clean excessively, but they're really suffering from obsessive-compulsive disorder."