... his feelings and slowly started expressing them. He has a sense of insecurity about himself and hard to trust others because of abuse hes been in his past relationships as well as betrayal by friends and family in his past. Where i know now that i went wrong is near the beginning he found that I was communicating with guys I have had "relations" with before and after an argument about the situation we talked about it and from what i understand moved on from it. My dilemma now is that he makes jokes sometimes about them or my ex's and thinks its funny, when I address him and say "that's not something to joke about." Or "why do you feel its ok to joke about negative things like cheating or seeing other people?" He closes off and wants to drop the conversation. Not only does he want to drop conversations like these but others as well such as he feels i rush him to do things if i arrive early(however i wasnt given a specific time to be there when i asked him) to where he might be having a beer with his friends or hanging with his family. So my question is what do I do? Do I just drop the conversations and do I just drop him off to where he wants to be and arrive when he asked me to? I don't feel like its my fault that he reacts this way however I do feel like its up to me to at least adjust to this behavior until he learns to repair his way of thinking on his own as I've done a lot for the sake of both of us since the beginning of our relationship. He hasn't had a job but is currently attending school to start a career and I am ok with this because I see a better future beyond our current status. I love this person, we now live together and we have come a very long way from the start of our relationship. Its just so easy for his entire day to be ruined from something as small as me forgetting something not exactly detrimental to our health or lifestyle that could do so and it would cause him to be socially distant from me until the next day. Any help would be grately appreciated. Thanks
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he should know what works and what doesn't work as far as that goes he shouldn't be doing things he shouldn't be doing or asking to be taken somewhere to hang with his friends he wants to hang but tell him its not your role to take him to hang out with his friends and then ritical you for not showing up on time do you have any close girlfriends you could hang out with this would be justifyable thinking on your part he hangs with his friends and you hang with yours this would send a wild clear message to him become less available to his needs take care of your own needs