... found comfort in God and improved my self esteem, we got back together. However, he was not the same. He was very critical and mean. He stayed out till about 3 or 4 am which he never did before. And he began adding and liking photos of different women he doesn't even know on social media. I spoke with him and told him numerous times what bothered me and that I would leave him if he didn't stop. He continued. I was finally fed up and broke up with him because whenever I tried to talk to him he would bring up my past issues from the relationship instead of moving forward and giving his best into our new relationship. I love him but I ended the relationship. I do feel terrible but I don't want to be with him the way he is. I just want my loving, caring old boyfriend back. Any advice?
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well if he didn't stop doing it when you shared with him what was bothering you about the different things he is doing he isn't trying to reframe from doing it even if you warned him what would happen if he still kept on doing it theres something he actually likes about this behavior he is expressing and shooting you down for things you have done tells me he likes his new found freedom he was still involved in it anyway so rather then bring your self down because of this he isn't a mutual player i would leave him alone and look at things that are going to be positive for you
Yes I have some advice, live and learn. What you should learn from this relationship is that it was never your issue to fix. The purpose of this relationship was to teach you how to avoid these guys in the future. In no way can you fix this guy or this relationship.
He obviously needs you to be insecure and so now that your are less insecure he's trying to turn you back into being insecure. Some people, male or female, need to make others feel bad about themselves to feel good about themselves. We should never rely on anyone else to make us feel good about ourselves, however, the person you love should enhance your feeling of confidence. If the person you love is making you feel at all bad about yourself, they don't really love you. They love what they think you can make them feel about themselves.