... my account. In a very unexpected turn of event I realize I'm pregnant for a guy I'm seeing. We both agreed from the start that we're not gonna start an exclusive relationship but the good thing is we both only see each other at the moment. Now he says he doesn't want a child and I'm very very reluctant to have an abortion. The Pregnancy is still early (3weeks old) but I really don't know what to do because for some weird reason I just don't want to abort the child. Can I get some advice from anyone with experience ?
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Well, I went through a similar situation. In my case, my super religious parents forced me to get together with my boyfriend at the time and keep the baby. As you might guess, he stayed around for a while and left me a single mom not long after my daughter's birth. I went through hell to raise her. I had to work like crazy just to support ourselves and life was very shitty for a long time. I had no proper education, a shitty paying job and an ex that wouldn't give a damn about his kid (and would try to sabotage every attempt I had in improving our situation). Today my daughter is a teenager (which I love to death) and I'm happily married to a very nice man, but if I could go back in time, knowing all the shit that I had to go through alone, I think I would have stood my ground and terminated the pregnancy. I had no idea what I was signing up to. You don't give enough information about yourself, if you are equipped to raise a kid on your own and if you have a good support network (family and friends) to help you with the task. You should take your own situation into account before deciding what to do. Raising a kid alone is a tough task (plus all the potential drama with the baby's daddy), but you know your situation better than anyone else. Take care!
For some reason, some part of what you wrote does not show on your description. But, yeah, it is a tough choice and you should be thinking about it long term. If the baby's daddy won't support you, you might be in for a rough ride. I'm not saying it is not worth it, but you might need to give up on a few dreams and comforts in order to make it happen. Best of luck!
Thanks for the honest answer. Like I wrote from the beginning, I'm a student and make very little money hardly enough for rent and feeding. So that's where one of my disadvantages comes from. Thank you.