I have two daughters. One is 10 one is 8. They are half sisters. And also have half sisters at their mothers I’m the non custodial parent to both. I was married to the youngest daughter mom, but the children do not know us as a family of each ex. Over the last month The 10yo has decided that it’s not fun at my house when her younger half sister isn’t there and doesn’t want to come. I’m perplexed we are always doing something fun. I have the youngest daughter every other weekend and the oldest every weekend. The relationship with both mothers is strained. Still fighting in the court system. I get bad mouthed by both mothers even after being ordered by the judge to stop. I’m at my wits end.
I had a sit down talk with her ( the oldest) and she told me that she doesn’t want to see me anymore. I asked her if that’s how she really feels that I won’t make her do anything and that I love her and respect her decision. I also told her I was proud of her for being honest with me.
I told her that I would leave it up to her when to see me.
Now idk if I made the right decision.
Please help
My 10 yo daughter doesn’t want to come to my house anymore, what do I do?
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- 3+ months ago by ConfusedDad
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- house, sister, mother, daughter, parent, parents, mothers
Responses (3)
she told me that she doesn’t want to see me anymore. I asked her if that’s how she really feels that I won’t make her do anything and that I love her and respect her decision. Is what you said....Yer I always take relationship advice from 10 year old's. Grow some balls and be man make your own decision based on reason and evidence. P.s. If your taking relationship advice from 10 year old's that could have something to do do with your poor relationships with women.
P.P.S. I am proud of you for asking the question, it's a start.
She's 10 years old she doesn't rule the roost. If the court says you have visitation, then she goes. The court doesn't listen to kids until they are 14 or 15 and even then they might not agree with the kid. And to get to court mom has to get a lawyer and go to court to alter visitation
The court does what is in the best interest of the kid and visiting dad until the court says not to is what she must do.
I would look into a conversation with a lawyer who specializes in custody and family law and make sure what your rights are. The 10 yr old is not there to play with her half sister, she is there to spend time with you and bond with you.
If there is a kid who gets the short end of the stick in this case its the kid who comes every other weekend. That kid NEVER gets you all to herself. She has to share time with the kid who comes every weekend.
You might discuss with the lawyer the possibility of family counseling with you and your daughter.
Good luck.