All assets are in his name including the family car that I traded my own car in for. Our house is in his name and we have separate bank accounts even all our bills etc are in his name I can’t even ring up to query about a power bill because it’s all in his name. When I bring up about having a joint bank account he just stops talking to me and I get ignored for days after. I work part time and have a 2 year old so I don’t earn that much money but what I do earn goes on groceries and bills. If I want anything I have to ask which make me fill like a child and he goes and spends money on what ever he likes with out even discussing it with me. Is this normal for married couples?
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No, not normal at all and not healthy either. Is he controlling about other things or is it just money? What would happen to you if he were hit by a car tomorrow? You need to be at least informed about the PIN numbers, accounts and balances. If he is not interested in a joint account, then you need to open an account for yourself and start putting a few dollars in it every payday. You can have the bank send you statements online without paper copies so that he doesn't need to know you have it.
You don't say where you live, but in some places the debts of a married couple are the debts of both. So he could be creating debt that will be your responsibility to pay off even if you divorce or if he dies. This is called community property and you should find out if you live in an area where this is the law.
A husband who treats you like a child is not respecting you and not a true partner. You have the right to be treated well and to have a true partner in life.