I wrote a love letter to my ex who has said he wants to marry me and loves me. He asked me to write to him in the past, so I thought it was ok. Because he has said he loves me so much I thought I'd take a risk and be very honest about my feelings too in the letter (usually I am shy about what I really feel). In the letter I described a handful of my best memories of our times together and exactly how I felt during those times: vulnerable, excited, chemistry, tension, sparks, butterflies and the like. I know he has gotten the letter. He hasn't called or said anything. Why? Did I scare him with it?
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I wouldn't worry too much about it just yet. First off, by being honest, you have done the right thing. You've laid your feelings out and now he has the full picture. However, looking at it from his point of view, the letter may have taken him by surprise. If I received a love letter from someone I'd been with in the past, I'd certainly take some time to think before I replied.
I'd realise that it was a delicate situation and that I should work out my feelings before I said anything back. Regardless of what my feelings were, I'd take the time.
For you, there's no guarantee that your letter will have the effect you wanted it to but I wouldn't fret too much just yet. And whatever you do, don't follow it up with anything. Wait for him to get back to you. Although there's no way of knowing which way it'll go, the only way it could go anywhere at all was by you sending the letter. You've done that. Now you've done your bit, you have to sit back and wait (no matter how difficult that may be).
P.S. The way you described the letter you wrote sounds exactly like the right kind of thing. It's been a while since I received a letter like that and I think your ex is particularly lucky. I hope it works out for you two.
He may be very surprised! If he was telling you he loved you and wanted to marry you he may just be surprised that you finally gave him an answer! I don't think you scared him though he just may be thinking about everything that just happened. After a little bit he will probably get back with you! Just give him some time to think about what just happened. I really doubt he will give any negative feeling though! He may also be planning exactly what to do next. Maybe he'll surprise you with a present!
As Kangaroo said you should be honest too!
well no it shouldn't if he said that he loved you and that he wanted to marry you, i would had thought he would been very happy about it, just give him some time and if he take too long just call him and ask what did he think about the letter and do he still feels the same, that if he don't have anyone yet
saying it to someone and hearing it back from someone is something very different and he might need time to digest the whole thing. It can be very overwhelming.
Give him time --- if he doesn't say anything in a months time I would delicately approach the subject to see if you can get a sense of where he is with this.
thanks for your input! I agree it's best to be honest no matter what.