Love - I was talking to a guy for four months who I meet online. We both lived out of state. I havel for the city since I didn't really know anyone from there.I even had a meeting in his state but he was of town but called every second to make sure I was ok and not lost. I was amazed we keep in contact that long. His birthday was coming up so I decided to go out to meet him the week after. Thought it would be awkward to spend time with someone you never met on your birthday. So I get there meeting of course was awkward he decided to stay at the hotel with me. He didn't look like his pictures but he was still handsome. I decided to take him out to eat since his birthday was the week before. We had a good time we laughed joked around like we did those long four months we spent hours on the phone. I smoke occasionally but not enough to smell like an ash tray and mainly for dizziness which is for those drinking nights not a everyday thing. We had sex multiple times. But there was no intimacy. So the last day there as I was leaving he merely just said bye. No thanks for coming, I had to ask for a hug, he lead me to the airport and that was it. So I called him out on it and he said that he was going to hug me but I was in the car. So once I got back home the phone calls stop coming. I would at least get a good morning text everyday. I found myself calling him everyday he would answer but was short and seemed uninterested. So I told him if your not interested just say that. After the third day He told me he was but I smoke and it was a turn off. I thought to myself than why sleep with me multiple times and wait til now to say something. He said because he liked me.i told him its not an everyday deal but you should of said something then but honestly we can just be friends I know that I am a good looking person ill find people to date in a new city I am ok. He keep saying no I like you your overreacting
Well the calls weren't regular at all. I told him again if your not interested fine but at least lets be friends and help me navigate the city better. He keep saying no nothing is wrong I haven't changed ect... At one point I text him and said he was playing games and I'm done. He called said calm down and he has not changed. I went back to his state because of a job interview that was already planned before I meet him. He was out of town that week which I knew I wouldn't see him. I called him because I was lost his phone lost signal and never heard back from him. I found my way did the interview and came back home. No call from him not even to check on me something he did before when I was out there and he was out of town.so I sent a text basically saying I came out there to see him only and out the kindness of my heart take to out eat since no one else did. I don't deserve this. Ill leave you alone. He did call I didn't answer and I haven't heard from him, its now been four days. Was that a wise decision on my part? What would make him change on me?