... anniversary... Valentine's Day or my birthday even really except for last year. He always says its money but he always seems to have money to go out all the weekends leading up to the occasion so to me it seems like lack of care. I tell him it's not about the money but the thought I'd be happy for a home made picnic on the beach or a nice card or even some chocolates or flowers but it's usually nothing at all. He also says he will make it up to me but I honestly can't recall a time I was spoilt by him, taken to a nice restaurant or even had a thoughtful gesture made towards me. After 5 years of this I have become used to the idea of not expecting anything how ever I still can't help to feel a little hurt that he can't even make a small gesture. a friend said that maybe he expresses his appreciation other ways how ever I am never complimented or get a kiss just because he wants to it just all seems like a hassle and and I am not good enough. I have said all these things numerous times and have explained how it makes me feel and why even just a card would show at least he thought but the message just doesn't sink in. I'm guessing I'm just wanted some opinions am I selfish for wanting a gift or gesture? is it not that big of a deal? I'm just not sure if I should be upset or if I'm being abit old fashioned in expecting these things but then what girl doesn't want a little bit of romance, I just don't know.. Help!