I love this guy and was a yandere towards him, I threatened our friends, was clingy to him, and now he doesn't like me at all. How can I still earn his love?
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This is not love. Infatuation or obsession, more likely. You acknowledge that your behaviour hurt him, yet you seek to make amends, not for his sake but to regain approval or affection. It's a selfish desire, and that's okay - not uncommon.
But you shouldn't try to fix things in this stage. You need to learn to respect boundaries first.
Example from Marcia a real life experience.
Learn from what happened she says. I ask myself "‘Has this experience revealed any areas in which I need to grow? What, if anything, would I do differently in my next relationship?’ “After time passed, I could better analyze what happened,” However, I had to wait until I could look at things rationally rather than just emotionally.” It took a year for me to get over the breakup. It took even longer for me to turn the experience into something constructive. What I went through taught me a lot about myself, the opposite sex, and relationships. I feel much less pain now about the breakup.
God created us with the ability to heal. It takes time to fall in love with a person, and it takes time to recover when your relationship with that person ends. But it can be done. The heart does heal
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If you really love him don't be so clingy because it's ok to not hang out all the time together. You need to set boundaries, let him have his space, and let him have friends, you can ask to hang out from time to time. You need to talk to him about how sorry you are and if he still wants to date you. I have a boyfriend of one year, because I set boundaries, I let him have his space, friends, and I ask him if he wants to hang out from time to time but if he's busy or can't make it then I am okay with that because there is always a next time.