Lesbian - Hi I have been texting my friend 4 work 4 a couple of months now and thought we were just?

I think a label such as straight or bi may not fit here. I am married with two kids myself but that doesn't mean I don't notice other people (men and women) and find them attractive.

You may have been responding to her obvious feelings for u. If she is someone you respect and care for I think it's natural u would respond to her expressing these thoughts about you and that could be confusing. It is always nice to hear that someone is attracted to you. It's flattering and makes you feel good about yourself. Nothing unusual or wrong about that.

Tons of people are attracted to people of the same sex at some point in their lives and many experiment with that. I feel that there is nothing wrong with that. The only thing wrong with this situation is that this woman is married with children. Her time for experimenting (outside of her marriage) has come and gone. With her being pregnant she may be reaching out because she is needing attention and wanting reassurance that she is still attractive. I don't know her so this is just a guess. But I have been pregnant a couple of times and wondered if I am still attractive to anyone other than my husband. The fact that they have 3 kids and she is currently pregnant suggests they have a healthy sex life so their marriage isn't just a shell or just something they r hanging onto for the kids. Messing with this would most likely be harmful.

I think you should tell her that you love ur friendship with her and want to continue being friends but you want to respect her family. If she is looking for ways to feel good about herself feel free to compliment her but do it in the same way you would other friends. Nothing that crosses the line. I think continuing down this other path with her would only bring heartbreak to everyone including her innocent husband and children. I think you already kinda know this or else you wouldn't be asking this question this way. You would just say u felt attracted to a women who expressed attraction to you and you've never felt that before as you've only been with men and does this make you bi. Since you felt compelled to tell us about her husband and children it suggests you feel conflicted about that. You should listen to yourself.

On the other hand her husband may be into that.... lots of people are. In that case, do what you want and are comfortable with. That's a sticky situation and I have no advice to give. No experience in that area.

If this has opened ur eyes and u think u may be bi and want to experiment with that then go for it. May I suggest that you look for someone with similar circumstances as you. Such as single and curious as well or even an experienced lesbian who is single. If u try it and like it well there ya go. If u don't care for it then at least you know and no harm done. Don't torture yourself with trying to label what you feel. Just try to figure out what you want and see if it suits you.

Good Luck!

You probably like the attention. She sounds as if she's going to hurt you in the long run. She's married and has kids. I don't know why she's egging you on like that. Either way, if you've never thought about being with a woman before, I wouldn't worry about it. If it comes back up later on and you're attracted to a woman, you might be lesbian or bi.