... together for thirteen years and always deeply in love with one another we have 2 lovely daughters, it all started after I was busy planning our anniversary and kept quiet so that I can surprise her but to my disappointment i noticed she had forgotten our anniversary so I kept quiet until she said something but instead we had an argument over her bracelet being misplaced, so took my loss and cancelled everything at last minute, after two days she phones me to remind me to pick up birthday card as its my nephews birthday! I was gutted she remembered that and not our anniversary! So I confronted her and asked her how can you forget our anniversary and her reply was what's the big deal, I was so hurt on hearing this I acted a bit stupid and asked her is there someone else to which she got very upset and stopped talking for couple off days! I apologised to make up we started talking but then in that conversation she mentioned that there was someone who was in love with her but don't worry he's married now with kids, but I didn't know how to react On hearing this and was confused as to why she is telling me this so I stayed quiet and feeling more hurt, I told her I'm tired and I want to go to sleep but I couldn't sleep the whole night, again I was not content and had to clear the air so I asked her what's on going and what's happened to the love? And her reply was don't bring up the past love so long as we are husband and wife you should be happy with that??? I'm so confused as I don't know what I have done? Any answers???
Answers (4)
Staying quiet is not the answer, I understand you feeling frustrated, hurt, and disappointed. The one thing you need to remember is that you cannot read her mind and either can she read yours.
It is true we tend to get a bit complacent when we are in relationship, and yes we can take the other one for granted.
It's an easy to fall in love with someone else only because they pay attention to us that we crave from our other half.
There's a story about the grass is greener on the other side, the problem is that when you move to the other side your patch looks pretty green to.
Why don't you if possible, take some time together maybe even got a holiday, find each other again,
you have been together 13 years and is not to be sneezed at. Disrupting a family doesn't do anybody any favours is anything it causes more heartache and grief.
Do not make any decision feeling lost or confused.
It all begins with the communication and it sounds like it has not been happening for quite some time.
Do not give up
Ponderingmind
no offence but you're acting like a girl... not that you're weak I'm sure you're strong mentally and physically, What I'm saying is you're not telling them what you think. Your wife probably can't read your mind so she doesn't know whats going on. So go ask her about it. she can't no what you're feeling if you don't tell her. so get up ask her about this man. Don't just let it rot your brain.
sorry if it sounded harsh. GOOD LUCK!!!!
