Hello, I am Katie and im 12 years old, I met my father in Feb and my aunt few weeks before.. (my father left when i was 2) he was so awesome when i met him! I wondered why i never met him before. But he got together with an old friend of his.. And when my Confirmation came he left half way through it saying he had to go tho the doctors because his back was sore . When he texted me i clicked location because he had left it on, and it said he was in Belfast which for where i was is the other side of the country! he left my Confirmation (very important day of my life) so see his girlfriend.. i met my half brother and sister shortly after, age 3 and 7. Since he met his girlfriend he wasn't texting, seeing me, having anything to do with me.. When i finally texted him to see what was going on he ignored me... he chose his girlfriend and HER kids over his real kids... i was talking to my aunt about him lately and apparently he had another child years and years back and ran off.. i sent him a text saying everything he had done and told him since he left me. did he leave me because i was a bad daughter? was i not good enough? should i be warning his new girlfriend about him? is this all my fault.....
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Your father is not a good man. You've managed to get by without him all these years so far and I'd not get my hopes up about a reconciliation. Let him come to you do not go to him. He obvioulsy feels no guilt, remorse or sense of responsibility. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. All the blame is on him, end of story.
At the age you are now I think no, leave it to them. You really don't want to get dragged into that level of drama. Be safe.
ok thanks!
Dear Kate,
Your father was lying. He left you and won't talk to you. You don't know why and that can be good in some ways. If you knew it could make you even MORE hurt. I know the feeling. Just remember Kate, it is not you fault. He didn't leave because you were bad, or because you were not good enough, but he might've felt like HE was not good enough for YOU. Kate, YOU ARE LOVED! DON'T GIVE UP! ITS JUST THE WEIGHT OF THE WORLD!!! I hope this helped and I can always help if you need any thing else.
~ E. Kapp
That helped me feel so much better!! thanks so much
thank you, but do you think i should warn his new girlfriend about him?.... he will leave when there is a child involved...