So I’ve started dating this girl, it’s been a month now we are in a relationship and I’m trying to be affectionate like hug and everything but she won’t be affectionate back and the times I do hug her she tries to get out of it or make it really fast, also on phone when we text I’ll say something sweet or nice and she’ll like say it back but that’s the only times she’ll say something like that. is this because she is shy? Or does she possibly not like me really?
Is this because she is shy?
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- 3+ months ago by TravisGon...
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There are a lot of reasons. Instead of trying to guess which one why not set yourself a mission and see if you can make her feel safe and confident?
Do you currently hold her hand when you go out in public? Make it light hearted always. Wheres my sweeties hand? I want my best girl by my side. Laugh, take her hand, kiss it lightly and don't make a big deal out of it. If you sit in front of a fire place or at the movies or a football game ask if she wants to cuddle or ask if you can keep your lady warm and raise your arm so she can slide closer then put you arm around her. Nothing else no extra fondle grope or kissing. Don't make her think that it leads to more. At the end of the date you say you want a good night hug. Announce it. Do the same when you pick her up. Arms open wheres my hello hug? Announce it. Gives her a chance to prepare. Keep it light hearted.
You do the hands for a couple weeks or so then introduce one of the others. You don't move on until you know she's comfortable with the first one.
Ultimately there is conversstion but in a neutral environment and never in a confrontive tone. You might say that you think you may have been doing something that frightens her and you never want that to be the case and then mention hugging. Ask what will make her feel comfortable.
There are ways around all this without problems if you dont rush it.
Good luck!