The only way my boyfriend can get hard enough is by me being on top. I had back surgery in June and I can't always handle being on top. I have tried all of his turn ons. I've moaned when we've kissed I've clawed him I've arched my back pulled hair bit his neck slammed into him when we've dry-humped wrapped my legs tightly around him... Everything lol. It just doesn't work unless I'm on top.