I'm 17 and I'm a 32A, it would be a dream come true if I were a B cup. I know breasts are for feeding your babies and everything, but I can't help but feel embarrassed about my chest. Everyone makes fun of me, and now summer is here and I can't go swimming without hearing a comment about my breasts. My mom laughs at me too, she suggested I use padding, so I tried it and she laughed even more because of the fact I had to use it and because it looked fake. While everyone else is out swimming in the yard I stay in my room crying and thinking of what I can do to fix myself. I also have a very high metabolism I only weigh 95 lbs, and gaining an ounce is basically impossible no matter how much I eat. I just hate myself so much, and I wish I could be normal and pretty like the other girls. So if anybody has gone through the same thing as me do you have any help or tips of what I can do, please? Breast augmentation surgery or pills are not an option because of my age and I have no money. I just want to enjoy summer without being laughed at, and it's hard to ignore them And guys what do you think of small breasts? Are they really that bad? All the guys and girls alike have laughed at me and I can't see how anyone could possibly be attracted to me. Any help would be very much appreciated, thank you.
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You're hating the wrong person. Don't hate yourself, hate these jerks (including your un-motherly mother) for their bullying. Guys like breasts, of any size. There are guys out there who would love you just the way you are. You're just hanging out with some very immature people. Put on your bikini, go enjoy your life, and to hell with anyone who insults you.
Your mother is not being honest, she is being mean, possibly competing with you subconsciously. You do not need to suck up anything. You aren't in the wrong, she is, and your "friends" are. You should tell your mother and friends that when they tell you such things, they are hurting your feelings, and that you are happy with the way you look. If they keep saying such things, tell them you don't what to hear it.
Regarding confidence, it's all about how you act (and by "act", I mean like acting). Life's a stage. Perform your part as a strong, beautiful, confident young woman. The more you do, the more comfortable you'll become with playing that role.
The thing is I'm not happy with the way I look, but it is what God gave me, and if I'm meant to have it then so be it, and I can find a way to work with it. I will try and get the courage to talk to them and see if there is any way I can feel comfortable in my bathing suit. Thank you for the advice on confidence, I will definitely try that. I've always known I needed more confidence and a higher self esteem I just didn't know how to go about doing it. Thank you so much for the advice :)
You need to talk to your mom and tell her you are hurting inside and feeling insecure. If she won't help, try to find a mentor to talk to. Are there any adults in your life besides your mother that you can confide in.
I have been in your shoes, and I feel your pain and sympathize with you.
The only advice I can give is to highlight features about you that you like, and look deeper than the physical parts. Like creativity or humor or a hobby and show people that side of you. I'm sorry, thats the best advice I can give.
I'm scared to talk to my mom about my feelings because according to my parents "feelings" are overrated, I know, it's hard to explain. I have no other adults to talk to, dont get me wrong she's a wonderful mother but when it comes to things like boobs she laughs and says "they'll grow one day" when they've obviously stopped, I got my period over four years ago so I'm done. Lots of people say I have a great personality and pretty face so I guess that's good I have many hobbies too. Its nice to find someone who's been in my shoes. I hope I learn to accept myself the way you did. Thank you for the advice.
Flat chest? Really? How many Olympic swimmers do you see walkin out with Double D's?? "Flat chested" girls make for fantastic swimmers, they're faster and don't pull chest muscles as easily. Be proud of what you got! You can do a LOT of things that other girls can't. So go get em tiger!!
Haha I'm not looking to be an Olympic swimmer, I love to swim but I'm not good at it and I don't feel comfortable with everyone else seeing my mosquito bites. But thank you though, I never noticed that about Olympic swimmers, and your answer made me smile :)
hey, your friends and parents are just being mean......you are beautiful just the way you are.....your friends are just jealous of you.....I'm not the "tallest" guy where I come from and I have been bullied........there are worse things then not having boobs. I have been to Africa and Europe and I have seen high poverty. people there spend days wondering when their next meal will come......hey I can be your friend.
Thank you.
Hey, I just read this, in hopes of finding an anwser for myself, however coming across this It made me think. You are beautiful inside and out. You should not be ashamed of your body, girl. Embrace your beauty and do not, and i mean DO NOT, let anyone make you feel bad for being the way you are. Being flat chested, small breasted or even big breasted shouldn't be what makes a person. Just do you, girl.
You're right even if most of those people are my family. My mother is just being honest though, and I guess I need to suck it up and deal with if. It's hard to ignore their comments but maybe if I somehow learned how to be confident I could ignore it more easily. I didn't realize how horrible I looked in a bikini until they pointed it out.